The BA that almost never happened.. (long story!!)

[mellie21]

this is a very long story.. I hope you will enjoy it...

_______ about me

I'm Chinese-American. I'm pretty tall for my race, 5'5 130lbs I'm small on top, but I have a pretty big booty for a Chinese girl. Weird huh? I love my small 32b boobies but I always wanted to be able to fill out my clothes. It's hard finding a dress that will fit right all around.. It's either too small for my booty but perfect for my chest or the other way around.

I had always wanted a BA. I knew it was going to be a very bad idea to even try get it. Especially when you come from a very conservative Chinese family. Actually it's just my father and me. My parents divorced when I was 5 y/o. My younger brother ended up living with my mom. I was with my dad & grandma (which I love dearly!) so with me being daddy's little only girl having a BA was totally out of the question and not approved at all. My culture does not believe in cosmetics surgery at all. To this day I am afraid my dad will found out & disown me!!

I had my first consult in the spring of 2006. I was very nervous & shy. The Dr was nice but we didn't have a connection at all. He recommended a lift to go with my BA. He quoted me around 10k for a BA with saline! That was a total turn off for me. Seriously I didn't need a lift at all as you can tell in my preBA pictures. I stopped looking & went on with life.. .. It wasn't a big deal...

_______ just kidding

Then one day this past summer (July). I was just actually kidding with my BF. I said when I get my settlement check I am going to get my BA in Oct. He was totally fine with it. He said if he was a girl that didn't have boobs. He would get it done. It just makes you feel more confident. He was behind me 100%. I also knew that my dad was going to China that month. He goes every year. It was my chance to get it done. It was either now, the next time he goes away or never. But why would I want to wait, it was something I always wanted. I'm not getting any younger. But in a way I wasn't expecting for myself to go through with it. Since I was also trying to refinance my car at the same time. I couldn't have anything new on my credit report. I had to make sure that my credit report is clean. So that it would be easier for me to get approved for the refinance..

_______ the search

Then August came around. I didn't have to do that much research since I done a lot in the past. The only difference was that silicone was back on the market. As I read more and more about it & looking at pictures of nice boobs it made me want it even more. So I requested 2 weeks off in Oct for the (maybe) BA. I had to be really careful & not to use any PTO until the BA. I had it all planned out.

I didn't know anyone with a BA. So that was a dead end for me to get any referrals. I went through google, yelp, forums & etc.. I finally had a list of plastic surgeon I wanted to see. They were from all different areas of the bay area. I just had to be sure. I just didn't want to be just another patient that will be forgotten or treated different after the BA. I had heard stories & I didn't want to be one of them.

I went to about 6 different consults all around the bay area before making a final decision. I narrowed it down to 3 Dr's.in no particular order.
(Dr. C) was the first consult I had during my search. she was great but charged way too much for BA. so she was off the list
(Dr. G) I really liked the idea of having a female Dr. She recommended HP for me which I didn't really like.
(Dr. M) He was my 2nd consult out of the original 6. I think I knew from day 1 when I met him for my for consult he was the one. My BF even told me, he thinks he is the one. The Dr & his staff made me feel very comfortable every time I called asking a question or in emails. Before I even had my BA booked. He also wrote me a really sweet follow up letter describing our 1st consult in detail what he learned about me & my desires in the BA. Which I received in the mail 2 days after the consult.

next....

[mellie21]

_______ the roadblock

Oh no! a major DETOUR ahead. My chances of having a BA ended! This happened right when I joined JBI. End of Aug, beginning of Sept. My dad had an emergency. He was admitted in the hospital for 2 weeks with surgery =( I had to take a family leave of absence from work for about a month to take care of him. It drained my PTO bank. Even if wanted to have a BA. I wouldn't have enough time off. I knew my father wouldn't be going on vacation anymore. During this time about 2-3 of the plastic surgeon I had seen during consults were calling to check up on me to see if I was still interested. sh*t happens..& family comes first. the BA was the last thing on my mind..

_______the great news

About a week later after surgery, my dad got discharged from the hospital. He started to improve really well & said he will be taking his vacation if the Dr. approved it. Also my refinance got approved. It was a sign for me. So I went in for 2nd consults with Dr.G & Dr. M

Dr. G still recommended 375 HP for me but I wasn't really sure if I wanted the look of HP when I wear a strapless dress. She said if I wanted mod+ I would have to go down in cc's. She was not into the idea of going over BWD. It made me feel unsure with her after this 2nd consult. Also she couldn't put my nipple piercings back in after the BA. She said I would have to wait about 3 days after. I knew the holes would close up by then. I really didn't want that to happen. I love my piercings. Her staff was kinda pushy also. The secretary called me 3 times in 1 week after the 2nd consult to see if I wanted to book my BA.

Dr. M About a month had already passed since my 1st consult w/ Dr. M. When I called his office to schedule a 2nd consult, his staff already knew who I was & remember what kind of procedure I was interested in. The girls at his office are really helpful since 2 of them have had BA. I don't know anyone in real life that had a BA for me to ask questions with. That was a major plus for me. They are so open about their BA its made me feel very comfortable getting it done. I showed him a picture of my favorite boobs( the one in my preBA album. that was the only picture I used, to show all the plastic surgeon I went to consult with) he agreed that was a lovely pair. (1st & 2nd consult) He said my boobies would come out looking like hers. it's hard since everyone body stats are different, but I was very similar to her =) He said that he will be able to put my piercings back in for me when he is done with the whole procedure. He knew I wouldn't be able to put them back in myself beacuse of the pain. I was very happy to hear that I will be able to keep my piercings. Since it hurt like a B***** getting them pierced. YAY! Deep down I knew he was the one. I just had to be sure.

My dad's Dr gave him the clearance to go to China. BA here I come.

next....

[mellie21]

______the sizing

I made an appointment for sizing the following week. I tried on sizers & we picked 350cc mod +, since I didn't want to be top heavy because I have big hips/a$$ already. I just want to be proportional for my size & height. I want to look skinner w/ the BA but not heavy (if you get what I mean) My Dr said if I went with 375cc I would look a little more top heavy. He says 350cc would be perfect for me. I trust his judgment. I told him just make me look nice and full but I don't want the top heavy look. He asked if it came down to a point in surgery that he had to decided for me, which would I choose? I told him smaller since I can always make it look bigger, not vice versa. He said I would be a full C/small D, which I am very happy to have! Just in case, I asked him what was the max size he can fit in me. he said 400cc. I had 13 days left before the big day.

____the time off

The days were going by very slow the first week, Then the 2nd week it went by fast till the big day. During the last week I had at work. I was in contact with the leave of absence specialist from HR since she helped me with my family leave. I asked her if i qualify for PTO donation. Since I have seen a few people receive PTO donation for medical leave. I told her that I really needed it since I am having surgery & I didn't have enough PTO. She told me that I don't qualify for it. But I can use my ESL (extended sick leave) since I will undergo surgery on the same day of my leave. I have enough ESL for 1 week then after that my PTO will be prorated with SDI! (California state disability insurance) She says she has seen it work on elective surgery! Which she says I can get since I will be disabled from work! I already called my plastic surgeon office & the nurse confirmed with me that he does fill out SDI claims & will provide me work excuse note. This is a hush hush procedure.I only told my manager that I was just taking time off for vacation. But since I qualify for ESL/SDI. She had to sign a paper approving me for medical leave..I'm not required to tell her about my BA. It's just stated as medical leave. HR said that they only need a work excuse note from my Dr. It doesn't have to be specific on what type of surgery. I'm so happy that everything was falling in place for me =)

__the big day

My BA was schedule for Monday Oct 12 @ 6:30 am. The whole weekend before the BA I was really stressing about my size. I was really afraid that 350 would look small on me. It was already too late to ask for a change in size. My BF took me to a nice dinner at a friends restaurant the night before my BA. The anesthesiologist called me to introduce himself & get some info about me. He explain the whole procedure on what he is going to do & how I would feel.

The big day.. 6:30am. My BF & I arrive at the surgery center. I get checked in & changed in to the gown. Thankfully I got to wear my own underwear =) My plastic surgeon came in & drew on me. I wasn't going to ask about changing my size but my BF remidned me.. So I just asked anyways, since I didn't want to regret it! I asked if he can try 375 sizers on me to see if it looks good. Since I couldn't decide. HE told me to not worry about the cc/size and just enjoy them as they developed within the few weeks. I said ok you can choose whatever size for me that will look good with my body. I told him that I trust him & also to not tell me or BF my size after surgery even if I ask for it. I don't want to know.

around 730am.The anesthesiologist injected me with some relaxant in the preop room before I went to the OR. OMG I was so high and feeling good. My worries & jitters was all gone! I kissed my BF goodbye & was wheeled into the OR. I got on the OR table, then the anesthesiologist handed me the mask and said I will let you put it on yourself. Next thing I was completely out!

I think around 9:30am ish? I woke up in the recovery room very groggy. I had no idea what happened. The nurse said "how are you feeling, are you in pain. we have your piercings right here. The Dr. changed it for you." I was like "Huh? what are you talking about." Then I remember why I was there! I took a peak under the blanket & saw my boobs & my piercings!!! I was more happy to see that my piercings were back in, than my new boobs. hahaha! I said to her "I'm so sleepy & it feels weird, but I will try to wake up. Can you find my BF for me." She said we just called him he will be coming shortly.She help me get dressed & walked me to the bathroom. I peed & walked back to the recovery room by myself. I saw my BF waiting for me. She gave him my paperwork & instructions. We left, it was about a 30 min drive home. I just closed my eyes on the way home. I stayed very quiet so I wouldn't say anything crazy or stupid. We got home around 11am. I went straight to sleep. My BF was great he woke me up everytime for me to take my meds. He gave me little kisses here and there..

Around 6pm I was up & kinda about. My boobies were huge & numb! Since my plastic surgeon put in a novocaine-like puddle all around the implants so that I wouldn't feel any pain, It lasted for about 2 days. I was loving it. It really helped with my recovery. I was very surprised that I could lift my arms over my head. I had fun taking pictures of my new boobies. I started my massages also.

next....

[mellie21]

___the recovery

the next day, day 1.. I felt good. ate a little bit. went to sleep. took some more pictures of the boobs. They felt softer from the massaging. then I took a nap.. I woke up & took my meds.. few minutes later. I threw up everything!! It just went downhill from there. I was having hot flashes, small fever etc. I called the emergency number for my plastic surgeon. The nurse called me back & told me to stay on a clear liquid diet & drink plenty of liquids. It was the reaction from the anesthesia. I knew that nothing would solve this feeling. I tried to eat some jello with my meds.. after they went down..I went to sleep. When I woke up I threw up again.. then I feel asleep.. I woke up and threw up even more.. It was horrible! I didn't have the strength to cry. I did not even utter a single word about regretting the BA. No matter how bad I felt I didn't regret it!. Finally I went back to sleep till the next day..

day 2. the nurse called & checked up on in me in the am. She told me to continue & stay on the clear liquids. The nausea went away. I was back to my regular self again. The wedge pillow wasn't nice to my back! I hated sleeping on it. My BF went out and bought a heating pad for my back. It was in so much pain from that & not the BA. I can slowly get out of bed without his help.. I am slowly mastering the slide out of bed move!

day 3 - my back still hurts..I seriously hate the wedge pillow but it was something I needed. I couldn't sleep flat on my back yet. My nipples piercings were doing great! No sign of infection or anything that I needed to worry about. I love it!! !implants & piercings, yay!

day 4 - it was my 1st postop appt with my Dr. The nurse came in to remove the tape & check on the incisions. Then she starts feeling around my right boob and BAM she presses on it! OMG I was in tears. It hurts so bad. What she did on me, was the implant displacement exercise. Then she had me do it to myself on the left breast! It didn't hurt as much since my right is the dominant side. The exercise made my boobs feel less tight afterwards. It helps keep the pocket open & the implant soft. She just taught me my daily exercise. Then my Dr came in. He said everything looked great & I was healing very well. As the Dr was walking out of the room my BF (of course he had to ask, I wasn't even thinking about asking because I love my size without a number) how many cc's are in there! LOL The Dr. said he put in 350's because he tried the 375 sizers but it didn't look right for me.

____ my reflection

I believe that was the best thing I did...I trusted my Dr! When I woke up they were huge but they were perfect for my body. With the past 4 days I didn't know my size, but I didn't even have to think or worry about it. I knew he picked the right one for me =) I wonder a bit, but it wasn't a big deal anymore because I finally have boobs!! This something I wish I truly had done it sooner. I never knew it made such an impact. It makes you feel whole! I never thought that having bigger boobies would make such a huge difference with your self esteem & confidence. Don't get me wrong, I was happy with my itty bitties.. but this BA made me mentally happy for myself.

Today is day 12 I feel fantastic, my boobs look great & is very soft! I am very happy with my recovery & results so far. I finally got the chance to sleep on my side & snuggle with my BF. They are starting to feel like my own. When I am out I don't think about them. They feel really natural in me. I wasn't expecting my recovery to be that easy, but it was. I guess from reading BA stories so much . I had mentally prepared myself for the worst recovery. Thankfully it is fall/winter clothing season so I will be able to hide my BA from my father. =)

I thank you so much for reading my very long BA story & thanks JBI for helping me with all my boobie needs =)

[expatbrat]

OMG! What an awesome BA story. I feel like I walked through the steps with you. I'm so happy your BA is a success and that your Dad recovered. Happy healing and I'm sending a FR.

[apee]

Great story! My BA was also smooth recovery. I thought it was going to be awful much to my surprise I enjoyed my "down" time an awful lot ( I have 2 little ones) I hope your dad never notices, I'm sure he won't. YAY for you!

[Sexy Taurus]

Glad to hear your dad is doing fine...Congrats on your twins & Happy Healing

[shellbell]

Great story! I think you picked just the right size for your body type and goals.

I too was worried about being able to hide by BA from family. Not because my family is conservative really, but because they would be totally against it for money reasons (money is tight for me now - recently divorced and running a small business). But I did it anyway. I'm 9 days post OP and nobody has noticed yet, and I've been to family gatherings and everything (strategically concealed, mind you).

I did 300cc mod+ and at times I think they're too big, mostly when I'm naked (they look huge). But in clothes they look just fine. I think the secret will be out this spring and summer (for you too probably!) when the clothes become more revealing.

I can't wait for them to drop a little and feel more like boobs, but every day they seem to get better. Good luck! Sent FR - looking forward to hearing more about your recovery.

[klayco17]

awwww i loved your story! im glad your dad is doing well also! congrats on your BA mellie!

[runnergirl29]

I LOVED reading your story, think your size sounds perfect for you too...similar issues here...if the clothes fit my booty, the top is too big ! I bet you look great. Best wishes!

[bunnygirl]

Thank you for sharing your story! That was very detailed. I am glad for you that your recovery is going well after that first day. I think I remember reading your post about trying to hide a ba from your father. I hope things continue to go well. Enjoy your new girls!

[sophiecat]

I loved reading your post! these stories are great for knowing what to expect post-op! happy healing sent FR request.

[Ani]

Thank you for your very detailed story!! actually I don't feel like telling my parents too, they're quite conservative also. send FR

[sweet_wench]

Wonderful story ,, went by quick! your a very good writer.. let me tell you mine,,
think i work up had 2 cups of coffee, kind of recall the nurse and a needle in my arm, recall stopping at redbox to get movies, somewhere in that time i got boobs ,,, HAHA !!!

I am glad to know I am not the only one who did this for the clothing, I hated shopping for dresses, top to big if the hips fit, and viscera, when people asked me why and i told them they did not believe me, now I feel so much more comfortable, and i have been told i look happier and softer too,

thank you for taking the time to share this with us, I love hearing things still work out, goes to prove, even when you think its all bad and never going to work out for you,, it does, in its own time and way ,,,

I am also along with the other gals going to send a FR if you dont mind, your story makes me feel like I know you already !

I am glad your father was well and able to travel sounds like it is important to him to do it every year, BTW,,, sounds like you have a great BF also, very supportive,,,

[twingirlz]

Thanks for sharing your story. I am terrified to tell my mom. We are close, but she is very "all natural" and I know she will be against it. I don't plan on telling her unless she notices. Then the deed will be done. I am sending a FR. I plan to follow your progress in hopes that I will really be sure when I go for my preop on 12/29. I'm almost 100% the size I want to go now, but I have to discuss the final decision with my plastic surgeon. Hope your healing continues to go well.

[mellie21]

Thanks for the sweet replies everyone! I was writing this story while I was under the meds ahhhh.. I'm glad everyone liked it =)

[theyshallbemine]

Awesome BA story, thanks for sharing....

I am scared to tell my parents as well, especially my father. I doubt my parents will be supportive (if I have to tell them) and I suspect they will be quite angry if/when they do find out. I am not sure if I missed it anywhere in your story, but has your father returned yet and if so has he noticed? Do you think he will notice or do you think you will be able to hide it well?

[AWholeNewMe]

Loved your story..thanks for posting it

[mellie21]

Thanks everyone!! Here is an update, my father came back about a 1 week ago he hasn't notice anything since it has been very cold now. I have been wearing lots of layers & puff jackets. Also I'm not allowed to wear any bras yet. So it's a downer for me right now since I'm going braless. I look the same preop boo hoo! So boobie greed has taken over me right now I wish I went 25cc's bigger!! I hope when I'm able to wear bras it will disappear.

When I am at the mall I have been trying on bras for fun. I'm a 32 C/D. It seems like I will be a D after D&F.

I will have some pictures posted in my album later tonight in VS add 2 cups bra & the biofit bras.

Originally Posted by theyshallbemine

Awesome BA story, thanks for sharing....

I am scared to tell my parents as well, especially my father. I doubt my parents will be supportive (if I have to tell them) and I suspect they will be quite angry if/when they do find out. I am not sure if I missed it anywhere in your story, but has your father returned yet and if so has he noticed? Do you think he will notice or do you think you will be able to hide it well?