Can't get my groove on...

ninabeana103 · 07-10-2009, 10:04 AM

I am so worried that something is going to happen to my boobs to mess them up that I can't focus on doing the deed with my BF. I know this might be TMI, but I'm afraid to do certain positions and I think its gotten worse since we started having sex postBA. Last night, for example, we just got frustrated and stopped.

I thought this breast augmentation would make me feel sexy..and it totally does when I'm dressed and even naked..but when it comes to sex I am just so worried and anxious that its hard for me to enjoy myself.

Did anyone else feel this way? Should I just relax and go with the flow? Or can I really bottom out from sex? I'm going crazy and need to make it up to my man tonight. Thanks girls!

kristinmcc · 07-10-2009, 10:36 AM

Hey, I was worried about doing too much and couldn't really enjoy it or relax for a while either. It will get much better once they feel like a part of you. Just try and take things slow. You will feel more and more comfortable. I talked to my boyfriend and told him to BE CAREFUL cause I didn't want to cause any complications. So just talk to your bf and let him know how you feel. Good Luck!

sexmom · 07-10-2009, 10:40 AM

I am sorry you are having these issues, but do not worry! Your activities will not make you bottom out as far as I know. I was told that I could resume activities as soon as I was comfortable, and I definetely was not ready to have my hubby on top of me for awhile. But I gradually became comfortable with it and once we did it the first time, I realized that everything was fine. I sleep on my stomach everynight and have not had any bottoming out either.

NoCookies · 07-10-2009, 10:45 AM

It takes a while for there to be no discomfort when you have sex, I think. I am 5 weeks and there are some positions that I am scared of, but it does get better. Eventually you won't feel like you had surgery, so you won't be scared to rip stitches(my fear), and the implants really do just become part of your body, you forget they are there, and it will be a lot easier to cut loose. Just take it slow, and tell him no rough stuff yet ;-)

Momtotwo · 07-10-2009, 11:55 AM

You are not alone!! Just talk to your BF and take it easy until you feel comfortable. It will get better - I promise! It just takes some time, but I had that fear too - I didn't want to hurt my girls!! :-)

roadrunner · 07-10-2009, 01:51 PM

You're not going to bottom out or cause yourself complications from sex. I understand you being nervous though. I was the same way. This may be TMI but when you orgasm you tense up, and I was afraid that is was going to hurt. Hard to relax enough to have an orgasm when you're afraid that pain will follow. Here's some things that we did that helped. We shared a bubble bath and a glass of wine so I could relax. We had sex with me propped up on my 45' pillows, that way I wouldn't have to worry about them hanging in a weird position or being smashed. I wore a sports bra or held them with my hands so I could keep them "protected" and place some downward pressure on them so my pec muscles didn't pull during the "moment".
I will say that it was like anything else in life; the more you do it, the more comfortable you become. So get in there and play ball! LOL

GGjersey · 07-10-2009, 02:11 PM

I asked my PS about how soon I could start being intimate (this was 1.5 weeks post op) and he said I have the okay, but that I have to be gentle, don't want excessive bouncing lol. Anyhow, I'm assuming that I can be more aggressive

once I hit the 4 week mark and can start exercising at at higher heartrate again.

YummyAsian · 07-10-2009, 02:21 PM

look, you can last a little bit without the "deed" till you're comfortable. honestly, i wouldn't risk ANYTHING. just give it time. give your body time. i promise, once things settle and you have AMAZING boobs you will more than make up for the time lost!

bustersgurl · 07-10-2009, 02:26 PM

I felt like this too at first girl.....we would do it and i would have to tell him not to put too much weight on my chest and sometimes i would have to push him up. I felt bad, but it never affected us to where we had to stop. It's your body and until you feel completely comfortable just take it easy and do it gently for now. I'm almost 6 weeks post op now and i feel alot more comfortable now and it'll probably just keep getting better. I laid on my stomach yesterday for a few minutes and it felt soo weird! i felt like i was going to pop them....uggh i hope that feeling goes away.....

trishalizm · 07-10-2009, 03:09 PM

i feel the same way - it really gets better with time as your comfort
level comes back to normal.
i doubt that any complications stem from sex... so need not worry

CAINAZ · 07-10-2009, 03:13 PM

You are not alone. I felt this way, too, after my first surgery. TMI, but I CANNOT have an orgasm, unless I am on top, leaning forward, supporting my weight with my arms. Needless to say, after my first surgery, this wasn't happening for a while. My muscles were so sore and there was no way I was going to be able to hold myself up like that. My DH was very understanding. It was harder on me, of course, because I was the one not having fun. He had fun everytime, regardless.

My PS cleared us to DTD at 2 weeks post-op, but said to be very gentle and no bouncing around. LOL! So, I just hold the girls when it gets a little intense.

I've managed to have an orgasm a couple of times post-op this time around. We found that if DH holds my body weight, by holding my ribcage, I can focus and have fun, too.

It all just takes time.

07-10-2009, 10:04 AM	#1
ninabeana103 Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Johnston, RI Posts: 129 Thanks: 93 Thanked 31 Times in 30 Posts	Can't get my groove on... I am so worried that something is going to happen to my boobs to mess them up that I can't focus on doing the deed with my BF. I know this might be TMI, but I'm afraid to do certain positions and I think its gotten worse since we started having sex postBA. Last night, for example, we just got frustrated and stopped. I thought this breast augmentation would make me feel sexy..and it totally does when I'm dressed and even naked..but when it comes to sex I am just so worried and anxious that its hard for me to enjoy myself. Did anyone else feel this way? Should I just relax and go with the flow? Or can I really bottom out from sex? I'm going crazy and need to make it up to my man tonight. Thanks girls!

07-10-2009, 10:36 AM	#2
kristinmcc Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Pittsburgh Pennsylvania Posts: 68 Thanks: 1 Thanked 30 Times in 20 Posts	Hey, I was worried about doing too much and couldn't really enjoy it or relax for a while either. It will get much better once they feel like a part of you. Just try and take things slow. You will feel more and more comfortable. I talked to my boyfriend and told him to BE CAREFUL cause I didn't want to cause any complications. So just talk to your bf and let him know how you feel. Good Luck! __________________ 5'6 105 lbs Silicone unders mod + 325cc(left)/350cc(right) ribcage-27 pre breast augmentation- 34A (ribcage was a 29 at the time of surgery) post breast augmentation- 32DD

07-10-2009, 10:40 AM	#3
sexmom Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Inverness-Palatine, Illinois Posts: 162 Thanks: 1 Thanked 51 Times in 48 Posts	I am sorry you are having these issues, but do not worry! Your activities will not make you bottom out as far as I know. I was told that I could resume activities as soon as I was comfortable, and I definetely was not ready to have my hubby on top of me for awhile. But I gradually became comfortable with it and once we did it the first time, I realized that everything was fine. I sleep on my stomach everynight and have not had any bottoming out either. __________________ [B]Mom to 3 beautiful children Pre breast augmentation B Post breast augmentation D/DD 5'11, 140 Mentor 375cc Moderate Plus Silicone Partial Unders Christopher Pelletiere, MD [/CENTER]

07-10-2009, 11:55 AM	#5
Momtotwo My boobies have arrived! Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 332 Thanks: 95 Thanked 145 Times in 140 Posts	You are not alone!! Just talk to your BF and take it easy until you feel comfortable. It will get better - I promise! It just takes some time, but I had that fear too - I didn't want to hurt my girls!! :-) __________________ 5'9" 135 lbs. Pre breast augmentation - 34A Hoping for a Full C - Who am I kidding? I want a D!! 457cc's silicone overs breast augmentation/TT on April 27, 2009 :-)

07-10-2009, 02:21 PM	#8
YummyAsian Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 540 Thanks: 107 Thanked 251 Times in 169 Posts	look, you can last a little bit without the "deed" till you're comfortable. honestly, i wouldn't risk ANYTHING. just give it time. give your body time. i promise, once things settle and you have AMAZING boobs you will more than make up for the time lost! __________________ -

07-10-2009, 10:45 AM	#4
NoCookies Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: California Posts: 95 Thanks: 11 Thanked 44 Times in 42 Posts	It takes a while for there to be no discomfort when you have sex, I think. I am 5 weeks and there are some positions that I am scared of, but it does get better. Eventually you won't feel like you had surgery, so you won't be scared to rip stitches(my fear), and the implants really do just become part of your body, you forget they are there, and it will be a lot easier to cut loose. Just take it slow, and tell him no rough stuff yet ;-)

07-10-2009, 01:51 PM	#6
roadrunner Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: colroado springs, colorado Posts: 523 Thanks: 332 Thanked 303 Times in 220 Posts	You're not going to bottom out or cause yourself complications from sex. I understand you being nervous though. I was the same way. This may be TMI but when you orgasm you tense up, and I was afraid that is was going to hurt. Hard to relax enough to have an orgasm when you're afraid that pain will follow. Here's some things that we did that helped. We shared a bubble bath and a glass of wine so I could relax. We had sex with me propped up on my 45' pillows, that way I wouldn't have to worry about them hanging in a weird position or being smashed. I wore a sports bra or held them with my hands so I could keep them "protected" and place some downward pressure on them so my pec muscles didn't pull during the "moment". I will say that it was like anything else in life; the more you do it, the more comfortable you become. So get in there and play ball! LOL

07-10-2009, 02:11 PM	#7
GGjersey Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 76 Thanks: 22 Thanked 14 Times in 13 Posts	I asked my PS about how soon I could start being intimate (this was 1.5 weeks post op) and he said I have the okay, but that I have to be gentle, don't want excessive bouncing lol. Anyhow, I'm assuming that I can be more aggressive once I hit the 4 week mark and can start exercising at at higher heartrate again.

07-10-2009, 02:26 PM	#9
bustersgurl Join Date: May 2009 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 331 Thanks: 98 Thanked 146 Times in 124 Posts	I felt like this too at first girl.....we would do it and i would have to tell him not to put too much weight on my chest and sometimes i would have to push him up. I felt bad, but it never affected us to where we had to stop. It's your body and until you feel completely comfortable just take it easy and do it gently for now. I'm almost 6 weeks post op now and i feel alot more comfortable now and it'll probably just keep getting better. I laid on my stomach yesterday for a few minutes and it felt soo weird! i felt like i was going to pop them....uggh i hope that feeling goes away..... __________________ -

07-10-2009, 03:09 PM	#10
trishalizm Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: California Posts: 191 Thanks: 32 Thanked 52 Times in 48 Posts	i feel the same way - it really gets better with time as your comfort level comes back to normal. i doubt that any complications stem from sex... so need not worry __________________ -

07-10-2009, 03:13 PM	#11
CAINAZ 450 HPs Baby! Love It! Dr. Cohen is the BOMB! Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 2,291 Thanks: 504 Thanked 960 Times in 850 Posts	You are not alone. I felt this way, too, after my first surgery. TMI, but I CANNOT have an orgasm, unless I am on top, leaning forward, supporting my weight with my arms. Needless to say, after my first surgery, this wasn't happening for a while. My muscles were so sore and there was no way I was going to be able to hold myself up like that. My DH was very understanding. It was harder on me, of course, because I was the one not having fun. He had fun everytime, regardless. My PS cleared us to DTD at 2 weeks post-op, but said to be very gentle and no bouncing around. LOL! So, I just hold the girls when it gets a little intense. I've managed to have an orgasm a couple of times post-op this time around. We found that if DH holds my body weight, by holding my ribcage, I can focus and have fun, too. It all just takes time. __________________ Dr. Robert Cohen

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