Dh VERY upset - scared people will notice

ElizaMoon · 10-10-2007, 12:21 PM

Last night after DH came home from work we had a long discussion about my boobs. Some quick background on my story - I used to be a small 32B, lost everything after nursing, and decided to get a breast augmentation to replace what I had lost.

Well, my breast augmentation was 1 week ago today and even though I'm sure there is still a bit of swelling left, I can tell that I will end up a small C and look significantly bigger than I did before. Well, now my husband is completely freaking out. He admits that the size looks good and is proportional with my body, but says that's not the point. He is super paranoid that people (namely his friends and my family) will know that I had a breast augmentation.

We did not tell anyone that I was doing this. My family would absolutely not understand - no question about it. Our circle of friends wouldn't understand either. I have never known anyone who has had a breast augmentation before I came on this forum. Our friends are mostly people we met in graduate school who came from over-educated, middle class families, who believe ALL the breast augmentation stereotypes. Now - I know that people who choose to get BAs do it for themselves - not because their husbands or boyfriends pressure them into it. I also know that people who get BAs are not tacky and low class, don't have poor self esteem, and don't necessarily work in the adult entertainment industry - but this is because I have an open mind and had the privilege of "meeting" all of you awesome and diverse ladies via this forum. Our family and friends don't have that privilege.

My dh is so scared that people will find out and change their opinions of us. He is seriously so afraid of this that when I suggested getting a redo to a much smaller size he didn't say no. I can't believe this. It's making me so depressed. My thought is that probably people won't notice anyway, and if they do so what? At this point I don't really care anymore. But I don't want to worry constantly about my dh being embarrassed and ashamed of me. God, why is this so complicated???

tinah · 10-10-2007, 12:35 PM

First of all I am so sorry that you are feeling so depressed over this issue.
Secondly, bottom line.........are you happy with your size and new appearance? If YOU are that is all that matters.
It makes me so upset that people think they have a right to say what you do to YOUR own body. I believe that if someone really knows you and cares for you having a breast augmentation should not affect they way they feel or what they think of you.
I personally haven't told everyone about my breast augmentation (I have told the people I want to tell...that I feel won't make comments), but I have decided that if someone has enough balls to ask me if I had a breast augmentation then I will tell them, however, it is none of their business.
I sure hope that your husband can come to terms with this and realize that it doesn't really matter what people think of you for having a breast augmentation and that by you having a breast augmentation it doesn't change who YOU truly are. I hope that if you are happy with the new you that you do not get a redo to go smaller, just because you are worried of what people will think of you.
Hang in there...You are a great person!

Xiola · 10-10-2007, 12:42 PM

Tell him to chill the hell out. A woman's breasts can change size from simply taking birth control pills. Thing is, unless it is dead obvious, most people will not make an assumption like that, let alone talk about it.
Even if they do find out, so? Maybe you can help open their sad little closed minds a bit.

I come from a well educated upper class family and here I am with my fake boobs... and I am very much not alone. It's one of the best kept secrets but it seems to be coming out lately. It's common and not labelled with the same stigmas it used to have.

Try not to stress out about it. I saw your pics, you look awesome and totally proportionate. I hope you become more comfortable with them soon.

ElizaMoon · 10-10-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Blue

Tell him to chill the hell out. A woman's breasts can change size from simply taking birth control pills. Thing is, unless it is dead obvious, most people will not make an assumption like that, let alone talk about it.
Even if they do find out, so? Maybe you can help open their sad little closed minds a bit.

I come from a well educated upper class family and here I am with my fake boobs... and I am very much not alone. It's one of the best kept secrets but it seems to be coming out lately. It's common and not labelled with the same stigmas it used to have.

Try not to stress out about it. I saw your pics, you look awesome and totally proportionate. I hope you become more comfortable with them soon.

Thanks, I am actually becoming more and more comfortable with the size. It's funny, just as I started feeling better and better about it, my dh hits me over the head with this.

Xiola · 10-10-2007, 12:52 PM

You're from LA, of all places too. LOL He really shouldn't make such a big deal about it.

moondance · 10-10-2007, 01:09 PM

Hey Eliza -
Sorry to hear your husband is giving you such a hard time!

I totally understand about your family and friends. I'm finding that I'm not telling my family & most friends for the same reasons you haven't (all the stereotypes, blah blah blah).

I think you'd be surprised about finding some supportive people that you know...although, you may have to choose carefully.

I used to have a corporate job - now, I'm a massage therapist at a spa. I can't imagine telling ANYONE at my old job about getting a breast augmentation. But, working at a salon? I've been getting high-fives from the few people I've told, and then they say...I can't wait to see when you're done - if you look good, I want to go to your PS!

I guess what I'm learning in this whole breast augmentation experience, is that it is your body and your life. When I first decided to do this, I was totally analyzing myself...am I insecure, do I have a negative body image? When I boiled it all down, what I came up with is this: life is short...I'm now 39 years old, and dammit - I want to fill out my shirts!!! That's really all it is...

As far as other people's opinions of us being shallow, I think it's a good lesson for all of us for who is open and non-judgemental (or maybe just at a different place in their own personal journey).

(Can you tell this is an issue I've been thinking about a lot?

)

If you are happy, that's all that matters...and I bet your husband will come around!

Hugs,

PS - I was surprised to see that you live in LA too! We lived in San Diego for 5 years, and if we still lived there, I knew lots of people who've had breast augmentation. Here in the midwest...not quite so common - but, it's more common than you think!

ElizaMoon · 10-10-2007, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by moondance

PS - I was surprised to see that you live in LA too! We lived in San Diego for 5 years, and if we still lived there, I knew lots of people who've had breast augmentation. Here in the midwest...not quite so common - but, it's more common than you think!

I know, it seems ridiculous doesn't it? I mean, LA has more fake boobs per capita than anywhere in the world, right? But in a way, that makes it even worse for my DH, because it intensifies the us v. them mentality. For example, whenever we're with our friends and we drive past the Sunset strip on a Saturday night and see all the blonde, tan, fake boobified starlet wanna-bees lining up to get into a dance club, everyone rolls their eyes and makes some sort of snarky comment. It's like the fact that we would rather go to an independent film festival than a dance club on the strip makes us feel "morally superior" to all these LA girls with BAs and everything they represent. More and more I am realizing that for a group of people who think of themselves as open-minded, my friends - including my dh - are very closed-minded about certain things. I think my dh is scared that if people find out about my breast augmentation, it will seem like I'm trying to cross over into this other LA social category... like I'm denying the person I "really am."

jayne · 10-10-2007, 01:48 PM

I'm sure he will chill out in time...It is a big change for them as well as us... my DH says he would love me with big tits ,little tits or a big hairy moustache... in other words its not about what you look like at all... its about the person you are and your family and friends will come to see that given time... you as a person havent changed at all x x

mzmommy06 · 10-10-2007, 01:59 PM

i too am sorry to hear about this..but i must ask..did you do this for your self or for him.?if you are happy with the results then keep it..if you loose friends over having a breast augmentation,then they werent true friends..who cares what they think.you shouldnt let them or that get to you..you are still swallon,and may go down some more..

Nanny66 · 10-10-2007, 02:04 PM

Aww that's sad Eliza, sad that you are both worried about what people will think or say, and sad that some people may really judge you for your decision to have surgery...

It would be easy for me to say not to care what they think/say, but you live in your world, with your people around you...so I will try to think of other things that may help..firstly, I think wearing tops that will not show as much will help, and obviously, the famous black/dark clothing helps at times..not form fitting tops...

I didn't/haven't told my MIL, my choice, but for the first few months, I very gradually unleashed them to her..I wore nothing that would show that I had had surgery, she came round unexpectedly in the summer, and I had a bikini top on, I thought that was the day I would be rumbled, but she said nothing...now, if she were to ask, I would say that my since my HRT kicked in again, I have gained some weight...I hope you find ways round your predicament...it should be the last thing we worry about, but we all come from different backgrounds with different types of friends...good luck Eliza x

ElizaMoon · 10-10-2007, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by mzmommy06

i too am sorry to hear about this..but i must ask..did you do this for your self or for him.?if you are happy with the results then keep it..if you loose friends over having a breast augmentation,then they werent true friends..who cares what they think.you shouldnt let them or that get to you..you are still swallon,and may go down some more..

I completely, 100% did this for myself, NOT my dh. I really only suggested a redo to see how he would react. It's just... I don't know. I guess it's just going to be hard to deal with his attitude about this. I wore inserts and padded bras to hide my flat chest, and now the thought of being asked to wear a T-shirt at the beach to hide my nice, proportional, boobs from our friends so I can spare my dh social humiliation is just... frustrating.

Slinky · 10-10-2007, 02:13 PM

Your hubby is making too much a big deal out of this. It makes me wonder if he's feeling a bit insecure now that you've got new boobs, and he's focusing on this other concern instead.
If you went from a B ---> C cup, that's not a huge change. I honestly doubt most people will notice and if they do, will probably think you just found a great new bra. We tend to be more self-conscious and aware of our new boobies than most anyone else.
Unless it's your choice, I wouldn't go smaller. What is there to go smaller TO? Back to a B?
Tell your hubby that your boobs do not define who you are. You are the same person you were, just happier with your body.
With respect to your hubby's feelings, I think he's totally over-reacting. Hopefully with time, he'll realize that your feelings are more important than those of possibly close-minded people.

Slinky

redheadgirl · 10-10-2007, 02:25 PM

Eliza-
First of all, I saw the pics, you look amazing! You in no way, shape, or form, look like the stereotype "breast augmentation woman". At least not the kind your husband and his friends imagine. How do they know you're not just wearing some fabulous bra from VS? I bet your husband loves the way you look, he just can't get past what his friends think, an he's going to have to. This is about YOU and HIM, no one else. His friends are not married to you. He just needs to change his perspective, be proud of the two of you as a couple, and decide that this is no one else's business but yours. Seriously girl, I empathize with you, it took me 3 years to talk my husband into a breast augmentation, 3 very painful, argumentative, hurtful years. He will come around, with help, of course. Hang in there, sister, be proud (and tell your husband to be)!

xo

emps · 10-10-2007, 02:48 PM

Firstly congratulations on your breast augmentation you look fantastic I did see your piccy thanks for sharing. I didnt tell any of my family apart from my daughter, my partner and my closest friend initially. I have told a couple of my closest friends since but have choosen to keep it private.

I was in an what I felt was an awkward situation I went on holiday with two other couples in September none of them knew I had had a breast augmentation, I have kept them quite well hidden in clothes but in beachwear thats impossible. My partner and I did discuss what we would say if any of them asked. Knowing myself as I do I think I would have just started laughing, Im hopeless at telling lies. I wore my bikinis with pride and none of them asked me or my partner, maybe they whispered about it between themselves, but if they did its old news now.

Please dont consider having a reduction if you are happy with your breast augmentation yourself. It is something you do for yourself. I know its quite harsh but if your friends decide you are different people because you have had a breast augmentation then maybe they are the ones who should change. A breast augmentation changes your breast size not your personality and values.

Be happy and try not to worry to much about what other people may think, your own happiness is more important and you look so good.

Take care and have a speedy recovery
Sue xx

workoutgirl · 10-10-2007, 02:57 PM

I am so sorry!! I can only say that I don't think it would be necessary to go smaller, plus, the more times you go in, the higher the risk of complications. Wait at least 6 months to see the end product and dress them down, it is very easy to do. Baggy shirts, button downs, etc. I wish I had not told anyone b/c I am pretty conservative in the way I dress (my siggy was taken at home and I'd NEVER go out in public like that, I'm just too shy). I think he is shell shocked, just give him some time. The swelling will go way down and you'll look very natural. Seriously, you can hide them so easily. Good luck, I hope he settles down.

Kerri · 10-10-2007, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Slinky

Your hubby is making too much a big deal out of this. It makes me wonder if he's feeling a bit insecure now that you've got new boobs, and he's focusing on this other concern instead.
If you went from a B ---> C cup, that's not a huge change. I honestly doubt most people will notice and if they do, will probably think you just found a great new bra. We tend to be more self-conscious and aware of our new boobies than most anyone else.
Unless it's your choice, I wouldn't go smaller. What is there to go smaller TO? Back to a B?
Tell your hubby that your boobs do not define who you are. You are the same person you were, just happier with your body.
With respect to your hubby's feelings, I think he's totally over-reacting. Hopefully with time, he'll realize that your feelings are more important than those of possibly close-minded people.

Slinky

I completely agree. Also ~ if these people are your friends, then they know what kind of person you are and should not judge you. I think your DH is overreacting and needs to lighten up a bit. Good luck, sweetie.

workoutgirl · 10-10-2007, 03:15 PM

Here is a pic that might make you feel better, this is me last weekend at a wedding shower, this is me moderately hiding the girls, I can hide them even more if I want. I look now about the same in every day clothing as I did before only I don't have to pad my bras or wear the silicone inserts. This is what 34 large C small D's look like in every day attire:

moondance · 10-10-2007, 03:51 PM

Wow - Workoutgirl...

Thanks for posting that comparison for dressing them up & dressing them down! That's really helpful for those of us who are still waiting & stressing about what we'll look like!

ElizaMoon · 10-10-2007, 04:23 PM

Workoutgirl - thank you THANK YOU for posting your pictures! This gives me a lot of confidence that no one will really notice anything anyway.

You know, in the end I'm going to just have to let dh deal with his own hang-ups and insecurities. Thanks, all of you, for reminding me that he really is overreacting and it's his problem, not mine.

crevette · 10-10-2007, 04:25 PM

Hey Eliza...i hope you husband will chill down a bit

with you being tired in your recovery and you husband acting out...that's no fun at all...

I've thought about that too...i know my friends wont judge me or anything, i've been telling them forever that some day I'll have a breast augmentation...but at my work!! i dont know how to deal with that...I'm a boss so i dont know how to tell that to the employee...i've heard them criticizing, calling superficial, girls with breast augmentation...and since i dont really wear padded bra...i think it is gonna show...but i told myself "what the heck.." the worst it can happen is they are gonna talk about it a day then they will forget...like for you husband...he is gonna get over it...get use to it and probably will love them!! I dont know about your husband but mine is feeling the pressure...he is scared that with new boobies i'll be the bomb and that will kind of make him jealous

give you time to get use to them...the girls gave you good advices....

good luck and keep in touch...now i wanna see your pictures...

10-10-2007, 12:21 PM	#1
ElizaMoon Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Los Angeles, California Posts: 509 Thanks: 142 Thanked 245 Times in 201 Posts	Dh VERY upset - scared people will notice Last night after DH came home from work we had a long discussion about my boobs. Some quick background on my story - I used to be a small 32B, lost everything after nursing, and decided to get a breast augmentation to replace what I had lost. Well, my breast augmentation was 1 week ago today and even though I'm sure there is still a bit of swelling left, I can tell that I will end up a small C and look significantly bigger than I did before. Well, now my husband is completely freaking out. He admits that the size looks good and is proportional with my body, but says that's not the point. He is super paranoid that people (namely his friends and my family) will know that I had a breast augmentation. We did not tell anyone that I was doing this. My family would absolutely not understand - no question about it. Our circle of friends wouldn't understand either. I have never known anyone who has had a breast augmentation before I came on this forum. Our friends are mostly people we met in graduate school who came from over-educated, middle class families, who believe ALL the breast augmentation stereotypes. Now - I know that people who choose to get BAs do it for themselves - not because their husbands or boyfriends pressure them into it. I also know that people who get BAs are not tacky and low class, don't have poor self esteem, and don't necessarily work in the adult entertainment industry - but this is because I have an open mind and had the privilege of "meeting" all of you awesome and diverse ladies via this forum. Our family and friends don't have that privilege. My dh is so scared that people will find out and change their opinions of us. He is seriously so afraid of this that when I suggested getting a redo to a much smaller size he didn't say no. I can't believe this. It's making me so depressed. My thought is that probably people won't notice anyway, and if they do so what? At this point I don't really care anymore. But I don't want to worry constantly about my dh being embarrassed and ashamed of me. God, why is this so complicated???

10-10-2007, 12:35 PM	#2
tinah Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Hillsboro, Oregon Posts: 198 Thanks: 126 Thanked 69 Times in 68 Posts	First of all I am so sorry that you are feeling so depressed over this issue. Secondly, bottom line.........are you happy with your size and new appearance? If YOU are that is all that matters. It makes me so upset that people think they have a right to say what you do to YOUR own body. I believe that if someone really knows you and cares for you having a breast augmentation should not affect they way they feel or what they think of you. I personally haven't told everyone about my breast augmentation (I have told the people I want to tell...that I feel won't make comments), but I have decided that if someone has enough balls to ask me if I had a breast augmentation then I will tell them, however, it is none of their business. I sure hope that your husband can come to terms with this and realize that it doesn't really matter what people think of you for having a breast augmentation and that by you having a breast augmentation it doesn't change who YOU truly are. I hope that if you are happy with the new you that you do not get a redo to go smaller, just because you are worried of what people will think of you. Hang in there...You are a great person! __________________ Dr. Timothy Connall

10-10-2007, 02:04 PM	#10
Nanny66 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Uk Posts: 4,420 Thanks: 840 Thanked 1,399 Times in 1,217 Posts	Aww that's sad Eliza, sad that you are both worried about what people will think or say, and sad that some people may really judge you for your decision to have surgery... It would be easy for me to say not to care what they think/say, but you live in your world, with your people around you...so I will try to think of other things that may help..firstly, I think wearing tops that will not show as much will help, and obviously, the famous black/dark clothing helps at times..not form fitting tops... I didn't/haven't told my MIL, my choice, but for the first few months, I very gradually unleashed them to her..I wore nothing that would show that I had had surgery, she came round unexpectedly in the summer, and I had a bikini top on, I thought that was the day I would be rumbled, but she said nothing...now, if she were to ask, I would say that my since my HRT kicked in again, I have gained some weight...I hope you find ways round your predicament...it should be the last thing we worry about, but we all come from different backgrounds with different types of friends...good luck Eliza x __________________ Anne Mum to 3 - nanny to 1 (and proud of it) 290cc cogel overs - Aug 2006

10-10-2007, 02:13 PM	#12
Slinky Winter - GO AWAY! Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: US of A Posts: 4,873 Thanks: 769 Thanked 2,817 Times in 2,210 Posts	Your hubby is making too much a big deal out of this. It makes me wonder if he's feeling a bit insecure now that you've got new boobs, and he's focusing on this other concern instead. If you went from a B ---> C cup, that's not a huge change. I honestly doubt most people will notice and if they do, will probably think you just found a great new bra. We tend to be more self-conscious and aware of our new boobies than most anyone else. Unless it's your choice, I wouldn't go smaller. What is there to go smaller TO? Back to a B? Tell your hubby that your boobs do not define who you are. You are the same person you were, just happier with your body. With respect to your hubby's feelings, I think he's totally over-reacting. Hopefully with time, he'll realize that your feelings are more important than those of possibly close-minded people. Slinky __________________

10-10-2007, 02:57 PM	#15
workoutgirl Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southeast U.S. Posts: 1,657 Thanks: 1,076 Thanked 751 Times in 680 Posts	I am so sorry!! I can only say that I don't think it would be necessary to go smaller, plus, the more times you go in, the higher the risk of complications. Wait at least 6 months to see the end product and dress them down, it is very easy to do. Baggy shirts, button downs, etc. I wish I had not told anyone b/c I am pretty conservative in the way I dress (my siggy was taken at home and I'd NEVER go out in public like that, I'm just too shy). I think he is shell shocked, just give him some time. The swelling will go way down and you'll look very natural. Seriously, you can hide them so easily. Good luck, I hope he settles down. __________________ Dr. William Hedden

10-10-2007, 12:42 PM	#3
Xiola Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 2,369 Thanks: 739 Thanked 1,037 Times in 876 Posts	Tell him to chill the hell out. A woman's breasts can change size from simply taking birth control pills. Thing is, unless it is dead obvious, most people will not make an assumption like that, let alone talk about it. Even if they do find out, so? Maybe you can help open their sad little closed minds a bit. I come from a well educated upper class family and here I am with my fake boobs... and I am very much not alone. It's one of the best kept secrets but it seems to be coming out lately. It's common and not labelled with the same stigmas it used to have. Try not to stress out about it. I saw your pics, you look awesome and totally proportionate. I hope you become more comfortable with them soon.

10-10-2007, 12:52 PM	#5
Xiola Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 2,369 Thanks: 739 Thanked 1,037 Times in 876 Posts	You're from LA, of all places too. LOL He really shouldn't make such a big deal about it.

10-10-2007, 01:09 PM	#6
moondance Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Suburbs of Chicago, Illinois Posts: 148 Thanks: 31 Thanked 69 Times in 56 Posts	Hey Eliza - Sorry to hear your husband is giving you such a hard time! I totally understand about your family and friends. I'm finding that I'm not telling my family & most friends for the same reasons you haven't (all the stereotypes, blah blah blah). I think you'd be surprised about finding some supportive people that you know...although, you may have to choose carefully. I used to have a corporate job - now, I'm a massage therapist at a spa. I can't imagine telling ANYONE at my old job about getting a breast augmentation. But, working at a salon? I've been getting high-fives from the few people I've told, and then they say...I can't wait to see when you're done - if you look good, I want to go to your PS! I guess what I'm learning in this whole breast augmentation experience, is that it is your body and your life. When I first decided to do this, I was totally analyzing myself...am I insecure, do I have a negative body image? When I boiled it all down, what I came up with is this: life is short...I'm now 39 years old, and dammit - I want to fill out my shirts!!! That's really all it is... As far as other people's opinions of us being shallow, I think it's a good lesson for all of us for who is open and non-judgemental (or maybe just at a different place in their own personal journey). (Can you tell this is an issue I've been thinking about a lot? ) If you are happy, that's all that matters...and I bet your husband will come around! Hugs, PS - I was surprised to see that you live in LA too! We lived in San Diego for 5 years, and if we still lived there, I knew lots of people who've had breast augmentation. Here in the midwest...not quite so common - but, it's more common than you think!

10-10-2007, 01:48 PM	#8
jayne Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Northants Posts: 1,305 Thanks: 39 Thanked 511 Times in 463 Posts	I'm sure he will chill out in time...It is a big change for them as well as us... my DH says he would love me with big tits ,little tits or a big hairy moustache... in other words its not about what you look like at all... its about the person you are and your family and friends will come to see that given time... you as a person havent changed at all x x

10-10-2007, 01:59 PM	#9
mzmommy06 Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Ontario California Posts: 491 Thanks: 134 Thanked 131 Times in 126 Posts	i too am sorry to hear about this..but i must ask..did you do this for your self or for him.?if you are happy with the results then keep it..if you loose friends over having a breast augmentation,then they werent true friends..who cares what they think.you shouldnt let them or that get to you..you are still swallon,and may go down some more..

10-10-2007, 02:25 PM	#13
redheadgirl drama queen Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: South Dakota Posts: 100 Thanks: 99 Thanked 36 Times in 35 Posts	Eliza- First of all, I saw the pics, you look amazing! You in no way, shape, or form, look like the stereotype "breast augmentation woman". At least not the kind your husband and his friends imagine. How do they know you're not just wearing some fabulous bra from VS? I bet your husband loves the way you look, he just can't get past what his friends think, an he's going to have to. This is about YOU and HIM, no one else. His friends are not married to you. He just needs to change his perspective, be proud of the two of you as a couple, and decide that this is no one else's business but yours. Seriously girl, I empathize with you, it took me 3 years to talk my husband into a breast augmentation, 3 very painful, argumentative, hurtful years. He will come around, with help, of course. Hang in there, sister, be proud (and tell your husband to be)! xo

10-10-2007, 02:48 PM	#14
emps Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: staffordshire Posts: 225 Thanks: 32 Thanked 97 Times in 94 Posts	Firstly congratulations on your breast augmentation you look fantastic I did see your piccy thanks for sharing. I didnt tell any of my family apart from my daughter, my partner and my closest friend initially. I have told a couple of my closest friends since but have choosen to keep it private. I was in an what I felt was an awkward situation I went on holiday with two other couples in September none of them knew I had had a breast augmentation, I have kept them quite well hidden in clothes but in beachwear thats impossible. My partner and I did discuss what we would say if any of them asked. Knowing myself as I do I think I would have just started laughing, Im hopeless at telling lies. I wore my bikinis with pride and none of them asked me or my partner, maybe they whispered about it between themselves, but if they did its old news now. Please dont consider having a reduction if you are happy with your breast augmentation yourself. It is something you do for yourself. I know its quite harsh but if your friends decide you are different people because you have had a breast augmentation then maybe they are the ones who should change. A breast augmentation changes your breast size not your personality and values. Be happy and try not to worry to much about what other people may think, your own happiness is more important and you look so good. Take care and have a speedy recovery Sue xx

10-10-2007, 03:15 PM	#17
workoutgirl Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Southeast U.S. Posts: 1,657 Thanks: 1,076 Thanked 751 Times in 680 Posts	Here is a pic that might make you feel better, this is me last weekend at a wedding shower, this is me moderately hiding the girls, I can hide them even more if I want. I look now about the same in every day clothing as I did before only I don't have to pad my bras or wear the silicone inserts. This is what 34 large C small D's look like in every day attire: __________________ Dr. William Hedden

10-10-2007, 03:51 PM	#18
moondance Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Suburbs of Chicago, Illinois Posts: 148 Thanks: 31 Thanked 69 Times in 56 Posts	Wow - Workoutgirl... Thanks for posting that comparison for dressing them up & dressing them down! That's really helpful for those of us who are still waiting & stressing about what we'll look like!

10-10-2007, 04:23 PM	#19
ElizaMoon Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Los Angeles, California Posts: 509 Thanks: 142 Thanked 245 Times in 201 Posts	Workoutgirl - thank you THANK YOU for posting your pictures! This gives me a lot of confidence that no one will really notice anything anyway. You know, in the end I'm going to just have to let dh deal with his own hang-ups and insecurities. Thanks, all of you, for reminding me that he really is overreacting and it's his problem, not mine.

10-10-2007, 04:25 PM	#20
crevette Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Montreal, Québec Posts: 112 Thanks: 26 Thanked 39 Times in 39 Posts	Hey Eliza...i hope you husband will chill down a bit with you being tired in your recovery and you husband acting out...that's no fun at all... I've thought about that too...i know my friends wont judge me or anything, i've been telling them forever that some day I'll have a breast augmentation...but at my work!! i dont know how to deal with that...I'm a boss so i dont know how to tell that to the employee...i've heard them criticizing, calling superficial, girls with breast augmentation...and since i dont really wear padded bra...i think it is gonna show...but i told myself "what the heck.." the worst it can happen is they are gonna talk about it a day then they will forget...like for you husband...he is gonna get over it...get use to it and probably will love them!! I dont know about your husband but mine is feeling the pressure...he is scared that with new boobies i'll be the bomb and that will kind of make him jealous give you time to get use to them...the girls gave you good advices.... good luck and keep in touch...now i wanna see your pictures...

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