Rude indirect comment- i felt humiliated.

[bbjay]

No I mean like "Look at her boobs..They are so fake. How gross!" Obviously he was enjoying your melons!

[Mmaxwell]

Originally Posted by Hurricane

I would have said, that's funny I'm suddenly craving baby dill pickles. Or even better, that's odd your gf said she's craving a real man.

. LMBO!!!!!! Good stuff.

[bumblebea]

it's not rude : it's immature and nonsensical.
you have to remember that all human beings lose touch with maturity and rationality when they are drunk : that's why they get drunk!

i have a higher than average IQ by a good amount : however it is obvious this admirer was on the lower end of the graph.

he was looking to get you hot : because you got him hot : by paying him attention and turning red : he felt as close as he could to affecting you and making you feel controlled sexually.

just flat out ignore him if you want to never feel hurt. i never even look around the room to see who's in it because i cannot STAND idiot comments. the smart one's will approach you and you will be able to appreciate their humor / rationality. if you look around the room you are bound to let in negative attraction from idiots.

to be honest:
if i saw your boobs i would be in the mood to stare at them too.
if i was drunk i'd probably come up to you and your man and tell you that you were drop dead gorgeous and that i had been staring from afar.
this might have been viewed as intrusive as his comment to you and your man.
even when i complement a female, i've found that it's always a breach of privacy to tell her how turned i feel by looking at them when we're both drunk.

i'm sure this post isn't sympathetic but maybe a different perspective will help you think of the best way to cut off his negative attention next time. if i were you i would have had my man just look at him for a solid 10 seconds from across the room and say nothing and just stare at him. like a protective force.

boobs = attention physically and mentally.
big boobs = big attention.
boobs are supposed to be private parts but when they are that large and drop dead gorgeous it's like opening pandoras box. it's like handing the apple for the man to bite.
i am not bi : i just have a boob fetish.

i am getting my boobs to turn myself on. and i have finally found a man to be with : for the rest of my life : who has the same boob fetish i do. all the other men i was with loved me for me. funny as it sounds : i was waiting for a man to love me for me but who had a boob fetish enough for me to commit to surgery for my pleasure with a man who could accept my prosthetic chest because of his own boob fetish.

let's face it : coming from a girl who has a boob fetish : you are irresistible.
your boobs are a direct comment : and when anyone is drunk and has a low IQ or poor upbringing : they will definitely react like he did.

if boobs aren't privately sized or privately hidden with the proper clothing they are subject to every idiot and genius's eyes on the planet. and when drunk every idiot's mouth is destined for trash talk. and when drunk every genius mind will think the same thing the idiot but keep it to themselves.

dont ever let an idiot make you feel like an idiot : especially since you are so beautiful and so caring. before i said if i were you i would have had your man look at him.

but if it had happened to me : i would have told the waiter to bring the manager and explained to him the sexual harassment at hand! you never know what being bold and honest and standing up for yourself can do. it could land you a seat in a VIP area, the dude could have been asked to leave, or you could have even gotten your entire bill paid for by the establishment.

good luck with keeping your courage versus idiots in the future. and i wish you all the best with your future 10/10 bod.

xo

[prettytitties]

Originally Posted by monipie

hi ladies, i know there was a thread about dealing with rude comments in general but most of them were direct comments. i just wanted to share and ask- what about indirect comments? do you ladies ignore them or confront the person? i am just curious because of something that recently happened to me. i was out at dinner with my hubby and after we decided to go to the bar for a few drinks. it was a nice upscale place and the tables were fairly close together, so everyone could overhear the person next to them. anyway, there is a group of guys 2 tables away from us and i can see one of the guys just staring at me out of the corner of my eye and then he says loudly, " Hey guys, I suddenly got a craving for melons!" i pretended i didn't hear it and just went on talking to my husband and then he said it again, to one of his friends- who obviously knew he was being a drunk idiot because i heard him try to shush him. this time i looked at my husband with WTF eyes and i turned beet red. my husband then asked me if i wanted him to say something and i was like NO WAY! i was so embarrassed. we just left right after that and wasted the drinks that we paid for. i guess i expected this kind of reaction- getting larger than average implants but i was just wondering how everyone handles this kind of situation. maybe i am just too sensitive. anyway, love to hear similar stories. especially ones that put rude a$$holes in their place. lol!

First of all...you look hot hot hot!! so he is probably wishing he had you on his arm and since he didn't he had to make a rude comment to make himself feel better which just shows what a loser he is!!! So I wouldn't worry but I know how you feel also...Im not very good with combacks...or I think of them later when its too late haha
But I was at the beach with a group of friends...and some guys that have not grown up from high school and still act immature showed up and obviously they could all tell my boobs are a lot larger then when they last saw me haha, anyway there was a girl with them which im not too fond of and she is super flat chested so I think they were all talking bout my boobs but very loudly...and I heard one of the guys say "oh you dont want them, they feel fake and look fake,fake boobs are crap" I clearly knew they were talking bout me and I thought why doesn't she just come over and ask me about them and even touch them (mine feel pretty squishy) so she can decide herself, grr that guy made me mad saying that.

But thats the thing with having implants or big boobs in general...people are always going to say things to make themselves feel better and if you have something whitty to come back with..great if not try and ignore them

[monchichi]

Originally Posted by Bellisima

Sorry you went through this, people can be such jerks!

Last night I ran into an old male friend and we hugged. Keep in mind that I didn't go huge. Later I was on FB and saw his most recent post of a pic that said, "Real boobs rock!"

I couldn't help but wonder why he posted that. One of the responses was, "Mine are real, real expensive!" Lol

People...

Sent from my crazy Droid that has a mind of its own...

wow! that would really annoy me. i would totally wonder what prompted him to do that. i tend to over think things though- perhaps he doesn't know you had yours done and just wanted to show appreciation for boobs after seeing you. so he put that??? hmmm, oh well, i think fake boobs rock!
lol!

[katy!]

the girls have already said it all, but seriously, I would have said something back....I cant help myself!!! No stress babe, not like you were single and sitting alone. Your hubby was there hence the guy = desperate for attention loser!! x

[azfaces]

I think FlufferNutter has a good point. Albeit offensive, that comment probably came from a place of admiration. Guys are pretty good with put downs- not so good with compliments. I, personally, blow this type of stuff off. You won't get anywhere trying to reason or confront an idiot- ...but.. if it makes you FEEL better- go for it. Attractive women will always get attention- good and bad. Just take it all at face value. Someone noticed you, and thought you had nice boobs!

[LNL]

Comments like that we're what held me back from getting implants earlier. And honestly it is what stops me from going for a significantly larger revision. What will friends say, what will people at my kids school say, how will strangers react to me.

As you can see I finally came to terms with it enough to get 650cc's. I do get looks, hit on, and sometimes comments. it is a little price to pay and the world is not a perfect place, but I am happier with myself than some guy can take away with any comments, if that makes any sense.

I am glad I look this way, and I'll bet that guy making the comments would die for a better look at how good you look.

I'm not sure when I go larger will change things at this point, but at the moment things are workable.

Looking good can be a curse

[bisou]

Hi

Guys will be guys..I would have done the same and not said a word..
Why bother? It's a waste of time because the guy's an idiot! Why answer an idiot?
Big boobs will get attention and comments good and bad..Just roll with it!!
At work sometimes guys will walk up to me and start rubbing their chests for no reason.. I get it!
Women can be jealous, men can be perverts!! They can look and dream all they want!
As long as you are self confident and have good self esteem it doesn't matter what anyone has to say! As long you're happy with you! That's all that matters!
Walk with your head high,shoulders back and chest out!
They can eat their heart's out baby!!

[Gonebigger]

Yeah look, happens to the naturals as much as enhanced. Unfortunately thats life. If you have a one liner to put him in his box yeah use it, but otherwise hes just a drunk idiot not worth worring about. When this happens I just make them jealous by being extra affectionate with the one that matters most.

Despite how bad this was, I actually find women comments worse. Some women will ***** on anything and its not just if you have big boobs, dress to short, top to low, too tight, heels to high what ever. Worst time ever, 18mths ago hubby and I did the bucket list and went to nuddist resort. Here you think everyones equal, respect everyone, no sexuality, Only couples allowed yada. No I over heard the older itty bitty commitee picking off my boobs all saying how fake and huge they looked. Probably because HB's had been caught looking, but they can look and not imagine too much or they have to go hide (think about it) I did say something, quote hot tempered, staff came heated discussion. They were asked to keep their comments to themselves, but really achieved little. Hubby had to cool me down and just remind me they are simply jealous and all would swap bodies in a heart beat.

Please just keep your head up and ignore, most people especially guys admire and the comments just reminds you of how hot looking you really are.

[monchichi]

Originally Posted by bbjay

No I mean like "Look at her boobs..They are so fake. How gross!" Obviously he was enjoying your melons!

oh lol! yeah, if i heard something like that i would have been pi$$3d instead of embarrassed.

[Kat_]

There just upset because the girls they date arnt in the same class as you. Your gorgeous and they didn't know how to deal with it.

[WhataDoll]

My instinct would be to give them a good squeeze and send him a wink. But I don't have a lot of reservations around men. It's the catty comments from other females that break me.

[BrazenGlamour]

Hmmm to me that melon comment isn't really rude. I kind of feel like that's part of the deal of getting big boobs. Idk maybe I just don't care for modesty ;-)

If the guy is saying something to me in a derogatory way I will say something or at least look directly into his eyes (which usually makes them back down). But comments about being too big, looking fake, melons, those don't phase me.. If someone says something like, "What I'd do to those..." I would not ignore it because that is disrespectful imo.

My fiance does get annoyed when people comment. He has gone off on people when they've said stuff like, "Nice tits" and I actually felt bad for the guy. It only has happened if they don't see my fiance with me, because he is 6'4" and 260 lbs and doesn't look like someone who would have to piss off. My fiance is getting better about it though. I've been telling him we knew what we were getting into when we decided on 800 cc's, and he's been less annoyed about it. One of his friend's girlfriends has 1200 cc's and he's a total hothead and freaks out on people who make comments also. Like chase them down the street in a bicycle lol.

[LadyJ1015]

Originally Posted by monipie

please excuse my horrible grammar- i have to type very fast since my 1 year old keeps hitting the computer! mommy problems!

You have a 1 year old and you look like THAT!! I'm so freaking jealous of your hot body. I would have said something, probably off color cause that's just me. DH said one of his fave things about me is that I can hang with and even embarrassed the boys.

[MagsNY]

In a bar

You look gorgeous
Big Boobs
Men drinking
Out with the "boys"

I think you will get those comments

I know it is difficult, but try to take them as a compliment

Guys will stare - fact
Guys will make comment - fact

You no doubt looked hot (with big boobies ) - fact

But looking at you pic and avatar.....................I may have even commented

[Bats]

That was definitely a "undercover" compliment because you look awesome!

[Packer Fan]

I'm a soon-to-be 40yr old PT bartender for a friend's italian (casual but nice) restaraunt. I'm about to have BA revision & go larger. I already get awful comments thrown at me from ACROSS the bar for all to hear (not just about boobs either). Add alchohol to men (even in the 40-60yr old range) & it's amazing the **** you will hear. And women don't even try to hide that they are talking about me & will, as a group, stare as they whisper to their friends--geez, can you be any more obvious?? While the 20yr old in me wants to leap across the bar & hand out beat downs the 40yr old in me wants to keep it classy (& stay out of jail LOL).

All of the comments on this thread make me cringe but at the same time it's a great way to find ways to let it roll because the people that do that crap are so UNIMPORTANT in our real world. It's nice to know we have a group out here I can vent or listen to!

[barbie92]

Originally Posted by monipie

hi ladies, i know there was a thread about dealing with rude comments in general but most of them were direct comments. i just wanted to share and ask- what about indirect comments? do you ladies ignore them or confront the person? i am just curious because of something that recently happened to me. i was out at dinner with my hubby and after we decided to go to the bar for a few drinks. it was a nice upscale place and the tables were fairly close together, so everyone could overhear the person next to them. anyway, there is a group of guys 2 tables away from us and i can see one of the guys just staring at me out of the corner of my eye and then he says loudly, " Hey guys, I suddenly got a craving for melons!" i pretended i didn't hear it and just went on talking to my husband and then he said it again, to one of his friends- who obviously knew he was being a drunk idiot because i heard him try to shush him. this time i looked at my husband with WTF eyes and i turned beet red. my husband then asked me if i wanted him to say something and i was like NO WAY! i was so embarrassed. we just left right after that and wasted the drinks that we paid for. i guess i expected this kind of reaction- getting larger than average implants but i was just wondering how everyone handles this kind of situation. maybe i am just too sensitive. anyway, love to hear similar stories. especially ones that put rude a$$holes in their place. lol!

have also had the same issues brought up on this thread since I had my boobs done. Guys make vulgar comments and girls give the dirtiest looks! In my experience, you literally, have to rise above it or you'll drive yourself crazy if you read into every single comment that gets thrown at you. I'm a really outspoken person so I would have literally told that guy to go shove it lol! With regard to men, most of them are okay 80% of the time; most of them just STARE lol it's so funny, especially when you catch them looking haha...you just get a few idiots who make stupid comments and it really is just so they can appear momentarily interesting in front of their friends or if they're just a bit drunk on a night out. Now, unless something is really unacceptable, I just don't bother, I don't go out to fight with people, I go out to have a good time

Hold your head high and strut your stuff girl, at the end of the day you look incredible and these boobs are supposed to add to your confidence, not detract from it, so ignore all the haters and be proud!! xxxx

PS I saw that you have a one year old - you are definitely the perfect definition of a yummy mummy! Chin up girlie xxx

[momof5kiddos]

Originally Posted by Hurricane

I would have said, that's funny I'm suddenly craving baby dill pickles. Or even better, that's odd your gf said she's craving a real man.

AWESOME!!!! hahahahahaa. That would have been GREAT