Post-op blues

[Blvd756]

I feel really sad tonight for no particular reason at all.

I guess I feel like my energy won't be returning for awhile, my breasts won't drop anytime soon, and I'm tired of being so tired. I don't like having to take ES tylenol to be able to get through the day. I just want to walk my dog (always makes me feel good) but am afraid she'll pull on the leash and really hurt me. I can't carry grocery bags. It still hurts to drive my car. I still have some water retention. My entire body is achy. I get exhausted from just a little bit of cleaning and laundry. I take everything way too personally when normally, I wouldn't.

I feel so physically and emotionally weak.... drained.... and vulnerable.

Thank you for letting me vent. I felt on the verge of tears for the past two days. Does anyone else feel this way?



I'll be better soon I'm sure.... right now it's just difficult.

[BrownBird]

I am just getting over mine girl, it does get easier though...
chin up! youll be ok...

[JujuBee]

I completely felt that way a few days after my surgery gf.. There was no reason really, just felt blue. would cry for no reason.. it TOTALLY PASSED.. what helped me is to get out of the house. even if you don't do anything but walk around outside.. gets you a feeling of normalcy.. it'll get better don't worry!

[sparkles73]

aww, these feelings come along and what sucks is when they happen you feel totally overwhelmed and as if you can't fight it off. you just put your body through a lot so this feeling comes along while it's healing.

i've a surgery or two in my life and i definitely know that all i could think about is feeling better and also feeling like junk while i was recovering. i've found that once you turn that corner and you're not so restricted that feeling just goes away on its own. so don't worry, it's completely temporary and it will be over before you know it. <3

[Barbara Ann]

It's all normal from the sx, meds, trama to your body, anesthesia, plus being a major life change. It will pass. Look into Rosie's sweet, cute, adorable face, and that will make you feel better. lol

Unless she is a hard puller, you should be fine to take her for a walk.

[mommy2]

How you're feeling is so normal it makes me want to give you a bigh hug! The good news is it absolutely goes away. It might take weeks to feel completely yourself and then you will look back and hardly remember the bad days. Even morning boob goes away!

You're not alone sister!

[mommy2]

You're welcome, now go listen to some fabulous music with a good beat!
heehee.

[HawaiiHottie]

I'm sorry sweety
Everytime I felt lonely or upset I came on this site since everyone here can relate to everyone else.
I promise as the days go by you'll get better. Keep looking up, your sun will come out sooner or later

[jezabelle808]

I feel for you. I wish I knew about this site while I was going through my rough times. All the women here are so supportive and compassionate. You'll feel better as time goes by. Good luck and take care of yourself.

[Devinelydd]

Hey There

Im on day 5 post my BA and just saw your post. You poor thing you sound so sad. As a sympathetic 'also missing walking my dog walks' Im totally with you!

But you know all that serotonin youre missing from being outdoors with your pal plus all these horrible pills you have to take make you a bit blue I felt like that a bit yesterday and its horrible I even got a bit gripey at my wonderful BF ! and you feel worse for not being able to take a shower and spruce up a bit! plus eveything aches when you move...but today is a new day I have my huge mug of tea and my cuddly friend by my side my sexy bf to look after me and the suns shining outside! And even better a new hot bod!

Tts not forever so take it easy- remember baby steps... today get yourself mega fix yourself up with mega doses of SATC and chocolates to replace the serotonin rush youre missing out on! I'll do the same and dog walking next week maybe!

Take care and smile youre going to look hot soon with your new assets!

DD x

[Dream Weaver]

Victoria, i'm so sorry you're down... but just know it won't last forever... it's just a moment in time... your body has just been through a lot - the surgery, the meds, the anticipation of what's to come... take it easy and try not to feel compelled to do domestic things, it'll all be there when you're feeling better, try to listen to your body and mind and resist the urge push yourself to be back in the swing of things, you'll be there soon enough... try to be comfortable with resting... you're body's telling you something... try to keep to yourself if you're feeling sensitive to others, go inward, spend some time alone... the sun will shine again soon... and you will feel light and happy again.

close your eyes and think of something, someplace that's comforting to you... concentrate on that and it will grow bigger and will take you away from the way you are feeling now...

maybe pick up the book "sex, lies and plastic surgery" - i posted something on it a few wks ago, it may lift you up and give you some comfort... or maybe a book on something totally different... a novel about something inspiring!!

i just know you'll feel better soon... wishing you all the best and i'm sending you good thoughts and healing energy, BIG, BIG hugs,

[AbbeyRose]

don't worry babe venting is exactly what this forum is for! I don't even know what I'd do if I didn't discover this safe haven!! what you're feeling is completly normal, I literally cried almost everyday - even 2 weeks post op. It's hard going from being completly healthy to being so disabled from surgery.. It makes you realize how much you took for granted just being able to get out of bed in the morning on your own without feeling two heavy weights pulling you down. And no matter how much someone tells you to be patient.. ITS SO HARD I know! You look at everyones photo albums and you're just like WHEN AM I GOING TO LOOK LIKE THAT?!! come on already!!!

and yes the days seem like years when your waiting to drop, waiting for the bruising to subside, the morning boob to go away, the strengh to do just daily activities to return.. but there's really nothin more you can do than wait. I pretty much suffered (not to be overly dramatic) for the first 2 weeks but things are getting better for me and they will for you too. And as much as things suck now and you are maybe contemplating Was it worth all this pain/fatigue/etc when things DO start getting better it will ALL be worth it in the end - guaranteed.

Anytime you start feeling low, sad, depressed, or regretful just remember how much you researched, saved up for, and wanted this surgery. How beautiful you're going to look when you're fully recovered and how happy you'll be.. how self confident.. how you are going to be the center of attention in every room you walk in! Believeeeeeee me all the good things that are going to come out of this are going to make the pain you feel now seem like nothing down the road!!! Best of luck babe!! ;-)

[reignofterror]

oh girl, it will get better!!!


i have read how common this is and i know once i have my ba it will happen to me. all that build-up and then the waiting to feel normal and look right and the dropping and fluffing . . it's like the day after christmas. such a weird let-down.

as i said, haven't had my ba yet, but i had rhinoplasty/septoplasty surgery on 8/7. last week (2 weeks out) i was feeling hardcore depressed. a couple of days i slept for 12 hours . . just didn't want to do anything. felt worthless, tired, groggy and just bad all over. i have just gone back to work this week and i already feel loads better . . just to have some degree of normalcy back is so refreshing!! i just can't wait to get back to the gym . . that is a huge part of my happiness and i know i shouldn't go back just yet.

hang in there, chickie

[moonsong]

I hope you feel better soon!! I felt a little sad here and there through the early days of my post op, I feel that way sometimes still, Im sure it'll pass us soon enough!! Just have to take it easy, and relax Read a good book or do some crosswords or something to take your mind off things. Recovery is hard and without this forum and meeting all of you, going through the same things I don't know what I would have done or how I would be coping and not knowing half the things I know now! Keep your head up, cheer up, you have alot of support here.