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Slinky · 02-21-2007, 04:50 PM

You know, it's really easy to post encouraging notes to others. But when it comes to one's own self, sometimes we (at least I) need to listen to my own advice. I'm only two weeks out. Probably still swollen, a little sore, dropping at different rates. I know all this. I thought I was ready to accept and deal. So I look in the mirror this morning and see two different boobs! Different sizes, different shapes, and I don't like it!!! I want perfection. LOL! Then I start talking to myself. Repeating what I would tell anyone else with the same look. Well, I finally calmed down and looked again. They looked the same but not so bad.

And I realized that pre-BA, they weren't exactly the same. Why should they be now? Just 'cause my PS told me I was fairly symmetrical, I expected matching boobies?? Yep, I guess I did. Ha! Doesn't happen that way, and now I am ok again. I think I can even deal with being bigger than expected. (I just won't ever tell DH what size I end up with.) Time, time, time, it all takes time, doesn't it? That really hit me today. My first time to sorta freak out. Thanks for being here to let me sound off. You ladies really are the best.

Anyone else having these thoughts, don't worry. It will pass.

Annie

bealotus82 · 02-21-2007, 04:55 PM

I know you are not feeling that great right know but you made me laugh!sorry!!!
You are so early post-op......give it some time! and by the way,,is that you on the avatar? I love that picture,,i think you are looking great! the top is so pretty too!
I am almost 3 months post-op and i still have some dropping to do,some changes to go through..you are not alone here.

milla · 02-21-2007, 05:02 PM

i would have posted exactly what Bea said but she beat me to it

you're only 2 weeks post op sweetie. hey at 2 weeks i was just about getting out and about and thinking of going back to work. i was still miserable and sore and just couldnt get used to them boobies! it was like, one minute i look at them and think "hey i have tits" then next minute its like, what the heck are these things doing here?

its a rollercoaster of a ride but at the end i can tell you its all worth it. you're a lucky girl slinky. you're already looking great. love your avatar

Nanny66 · 02-21-2007, 05:23 PM

Annie ~ mine arent exactly the same either, but Im 5 months out !

One protrudes slightly more than the other, the other is slightly wider than the other one, and one areola is bigger !!!! Am I worried ??? Not in the tiniest, b/c I never expected perfection, I am so far from perfection on other parts of me too that now my 'imperfect' boobs are the most perfect thing on me lol.....I gotta laugh at myself sometimes too, my crazy way of thinking actully helps me on the days when i really feel low about my imperfections....oh dear Ive even confused myself now !

You're doing fine though Annie, so dont worry, they will settle down and get more alike as the weeks go on...xxx

candyapple32544 · 02-21-2007, 05:42 PM

lol you are far from alone.. I had to yell at myself too. I am great to encourage everyone else but myself is a whole different story.. lol I hate waiting.. lol

Coco · 02-21-2007, 06:11 PM

Mine are a bit off too. I think I'm the only one that could see the difference. We just do that to ourselves. So I say to myself once in a while "you look amazing!"

Bethmomof6 · 02-21-2007, 06:20 PM

Ladies thanks for sharing about this. I think in my mind I was thinking in the end I would end up perfectly even. I am not even right now. So it totally makes sense that I won't be after.

I will TRY really hard to remember that they may not be perfect or match exactly but they WILL be BIGGER!! And that is my goal here. Now please remind me I said all of this AFTER I have my surgery, LOL!!

Nan · 02-21-2007, 06:28 PM

Yeah Annie it's a trip isn't it? I wound up bigger than I expected too but DH loooooves them. And I'm not symetrical either, though I was before. But I'm only 6 weeks out and I know, "Change Gonna Come" oh yes girl, change gonna come.

cheatingheart · 02-21-2007, 06:37 PM

Slinky -
I know that's going to be me, even though I think I'm already ok with the the concept of not being perfect. I already have asymmetry, and it should be better after, but not perfect.

Here's the thing - I've looked at so many boobs by now my eyes should've fallen out of their sockets, and when I started looking at them, I was not noticing asymmetry or imperfections. But when I went back and looked again, looking for asymmetry, I found it! A lot of it. Pretty much every pair - and over 90% of women do have it (just like guys with their balls!)

My BA is in less than 2 weeks now, and 3 weeks from now I will definitely be on this forum rereading threads that might remind me that ALL WILL BE WELL eventually. Because I know I'm not going to be believing it!

It doesn't look like your signature changed and I don't remember what you ended up getting. Wasn't it more than 350?

Victoria · 02-21-2007, 07:16 PM

Ah! We're human!

You are cheerleader indeed so keep cheering it on. It is an up and down thing isn't it! You've been here for so many, we love to hear you too!

JACQELINERT · 02-21-2007, 07:40 PM

Slinky, darling, no one should have to be their own reassurer -- we're not built that way. Even the best writers need editors! No doubt you would tell me the same thing, if I were you, LOL!

Mine were asymmetrical for four months after my BA, until I got a crescent lift on leftie (they are still different shapes, but look much better). Before the lift, I still thought they looked wonderful, but I couldn't fully enjoy them, because I kept being bothered by that small flaw. It's a funny feeling, like listening to someone you're in love with slurp their soup loudly.

Hang in there!

val(gomoms) · 02-21-2007, 08:15 PM

don't forget, 2 breasts, 2 different surgery. you will heal at different pace with each breast.

but i'm happy to see that your not as worried as you were. it took me about 7 months to say that i can see the final result.

terriml · 02-21-2007, 08:35 PM

If it is one thing I have learned from these boards is that - if you go into this expecting perfection, you will most likely be sadly dissapointed .... and if you go into this expecting immediate results, you will be even more dissapointed ... I think I have prepped myself now ... but we shall see how I am when the time really comes

Skipper · 02-21-2007, 09:08 PM

Slinky, my parallel universe twin, you have missed MANY threads on this. Some of us have been talking about this for the last two weeks!!! I did a poll on this to try and figure out if it has something to do with your dominant side - hand you write with/do most stuff with!!!

You are not alone!!! Your task is now to find pictures of symmetrical boobs - real or newly real. Ask your friends with natural breasts - how many are symmetrical? It will be a challenge.

Anyway...with the way you look in your opera gown - no one here feels sorry for you...

Victory · 02-21-2007, 10:12 PM

Annie,

You hang in there. You have been such an inspiration to others on this forum, and now what you need is a big hug. Wish we could all give you just that. All I can say for certain is that from what I have seen, you LOOK fabulous!

Slinky · 02-21-2007, 10:21 PM

You ladies are all wonderful. I was tearing up reading all the posts. Thank you all for the kind words and compliments. I think, no matter how much you prepare yourself, it's still a shock to see these large mounds of boobs sticking out! Maybe I'll just quite looking in the mirror for a week or so. Yeah, like that will happen!

You know, the othe

02-21-2007, 04:50 PM	#1
Slinky Forum Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: US of A Posts: 4,564 My Mood: Thanks: 763 Thanked 2,478 Times in 1,974 Posts	Stern talking to myself needed! You know, it's really easy to post encouraging notes to others. But when it comes to one's own self, sometimes we (at least I) need to listen to my own advice. I'm only two weeks out. Probably still swollen, a little sore, dropping at different rates. I know all this. I thought I was ready to accept and deal. So I look in the mirror this morning and see two different boobs! Different sizes, different shapes, and I don't like it!!! I want perfection. LOL! Then I start talking to myself. Repeating what I would tell anyone else with the same look. Well, I finally calmed down and looked again. They looked the same but not so bad. And I realized that pre-BA, they weren't exactly the same. Why should they be now? Just 'cause my PS told me I was fairly symmetrical, I expected matching boobies?? Yep, I guess I did. Ha! Doesn't happen that way, and now I am ok again. I think I can even deal with being bigger than expected. (I just won't ever tell DH what size I end up with.) Time, time, time, it all takes time, doesn't it? That really hit me today. My first time to sorta freak out. Thanks for being here to let me sound off. You ladies really are the best. Anyone else having these thoughts, don't worry. It will pass. Annie __________________

02-21-2007, 05:23 PM	#4
Nanny66 Nanny to Evie Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Uk Sign: Posts: 5,005 Thanks: 912 Thanked 1,489 Times in 1,295 Posts	Annie ~ mine arent exactly the same either, but Im 5 months out ! One protrudes slightly more than the other, the other is slightly wider than the other one, and one areola is bigger !!!! Am I worried ??? Not in the tiniest, b/c I never expected perfection, I am so far from perfection on other parts of me too that now my 'imperfect' boobs are the most perfect thing on me lol.....I gotta laugh at myself sometimes too, my crazy way of thinking actully helps me on the days when i really feel low about my imperfections....oh dear Ive even confused myself now ! You're doing fine though Annie, so dont worry, they will settle down and get more alike as the weeks go on...xxx __________________

02-21-2007, 06:11 PM	#6
Coco Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Azusa, Ca Sign: Posts: 351 My Mood: Thanks: 126 Thanked 44 Times in 41 Posts	Mine are a bit off too. I think I'm the only one that could see the difference. We just do that to ourselves. So I say to myself once in a while "you look amazing!" __________________ www.justbreastimplants.com/Andreasen/

02-21-2007, 07:16 PM	#10
Victoria Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Northern California Sign: Posts: 784 Thanks: 207 Thanked 342 Times in 284 Posts	Ah! Ah! We're human! You are cheerleader indeed so keep cheering it on. It is an up and down thing isn't it! You've been here for so many, we love to hear you too!

02-21-2007, 08:15 PM	#12
val(gomoms) Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida Sign: Posts: 510 My Mood: Thanks: 43 Thanked 54 Times in 48 Posts	don't forget, 2 breasts, 2 different surgery. you will heal at different pace with each breast. but i'm happy to see that your not as worried as you were. it took me about 7 months to say that i can see the final result. __________________ www.justbreastimplants.com/Simon/

02-21-2007, 04:55 PM	#2
bealotus82 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Florida Sign: Posts: 1,295 Thanks: 277 Thanked 317 Times in 299 Posts	I know you are not feeling that great right know but you made me laugh!sorry!!! You are so early post-op......give it some time! and by the way,,is that you on the avatar? I love that picture,,i think you are looking great! the top is so pretty too! I am almost 3 months post-op and i still have some dropping to do,some changes to go through..you are not alone here.

02-21-2007, 05:02 PM	#3
milla Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: europe Posts: 1,469 Thanks: 195 Thanked 462 Times in 417 Posts	i would have posted exactly what Bea said but she beat me to it you're only 2 weeks post op sweetie. hey at 2 weeks i was just about getting out and about and thinking of going back to work. i was still miserable and sore and just couldnt get used to them boobies! it was like, one minute i look at them and think "hey i have tits" then next minute its like, what the heck are these things doing here? its a rollercoaster of a ride but at the end i can tell you its all worth it. you're a lucky girl slinky. you're already looking great. love your avatar

02-21-2007, 05:42 PM	#5
candyapple32544 Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Canton, NC Sign: Posts: 75 Thanks: 52 Thanked 37 Times in 20 Posts	lol you are far from alone.. I had to yell at myself too. I am great to encourage everyone else but myself is a whole different story.. lol I hate waiting.. lol

02-21-2007, 06:20 PM	#7
Bethmomof6 Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Kansas Sign: Posts: 1,982 Thanks: 558 Thanked 849 Times in 765 Posts	Ladies thanks for sharing about this. I think in my mind I was thinking in the end I would end up perfectly even. I am not even right now. So it totally makes sense that I won't be after. I will TRY really hard to remember that they may not be perfect or match exactly but they WILL be BIGGER!! And that is my goal here. Now please remind me I said all of this AFTER I have my surgery, LOL!!

02-21-2007, 06:28 PM	#8
Nan Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: louisiana Sign: Posts: 128 Thanks: 3 Thanked 65 Times in 59 Posts	Yeah Annie it's a trip isn't it? I wound up bigger than I expected too but DH loooooves them. And I'm not symetrical either, though I was before. But I'm only 6 weeks out and I know, "Change Gonna Come" oh yes girl, change gonna come.

02-21-2007, 06:37 PM	#9
cheatingheart Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Midwest Posts: 541 Thanks: 231 Thanked 181 Times in 139 Posts	Slinky - I know that's going to be me, even though I think I'm already ok with the the concept of not being perfect. I already have asymmetry, and it should be better after, but not perfect. Here's the thing - I've looked at so many boobs by now my eyes should've fallen out of their sockets, and when I started looking at them, I was not noticing asymmetry or imperfections. But when I went back and looked again, looking for asymmetry, I found it! A lot of it. Pretty much every pair - and over 90% of women do have it (just like guys with their balls!) My BA is in less than 2 weeks now, and 3 weeks from now I will definitely be on this forum rereading threads that might remind me that ALL WILL BE WELL eventually. Because I know I'm not going to be believing it! It doesn't look like your signature changed and I don't remember what you ended up getting. Wasn't it more than 350?

02-21-2007, 07:40 PM	#11
JACQELINERT Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Northeast Posts: 956 Thanks: 450 Thanked 358 Times in 195 Posts	Slinky, darling, no one should have to be their own reassurer -- we're not built that way. Even the best writers need editors! No doubt you would tell me the same thing, if I were you, LOL! Mine were asymmetrical for four months after my BA, until I got a crescent lift on leftie (they are still different shapes, but look much better). Before the lift, I still thought they looked wonderful, but I couldn't fully enjoy them, because I kept being bothered by that small flaw. It's a funny feeling, like listening to someone you're in love with slurp their soup loudly. Hang in there!

02-21-2007, 08:35 PM	#13
terriml Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Portland, Maine Sign: Posts: 143 Thanks: 64 Thanked 54 Times in 44 Posts	If it is one thing I have learned from these boards is that - if you go into this expecting perfection, you will most likely be sadly dissapointed .... and if you go into this expecting immediate results, you will be even more dissapointed ... I think I have prepped myself now ... but we shall see how I am when the time really comes

02-21-2007, 09:08 PM	#14
Skipper Girl Next Door Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Denver, CO Sign: Posts: 591 Thanks: 141 Thanked 198 Times in 178 Posts	Slinky, my parallel universe twin, you have missed MANY threads on this. Some of us have been talking about this for the last two weeks!!! I did a poll on this to try and figure out if it has something to do with your dominant side - hand you write with/do most stuff with!!! You are not alone!!! Your task is now to find pictures of symmetrical boobs - real or newly real. Ask your friends with natural breasts - how many are symmetrical? It will be a challenge. Anyway...with the way you look in your opera gown - no one here feels sorry for you...

02-21-2007, 10:12 PM	#15
Victory Ride Like You Stole 'Em Join Date: Jan 2007 Sign: Posts: 233 Thanks: 88 Thanked 65 Times in 57 Posts	Annie, You hang in there. You have been such an inspiration to others on this forum, and now what you need is a big hug. Wish we could all give you just that. All I can say for certain is that from what I have seen, you LOOK fabulous!

02-21-2007, 10:21 PM	#16
Slinky Forum Moderator Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: US of A Posts: 4,564 My Mood: Thanks: 763 Thanked 2,478 Times in 1,974 Posts	You ladies are all wonderful. I was tearing up reading all the posts. Thank you all for the kind words and compliments. I think, no matter how much you prepare yourself, it's still a shock to see these large mounds of boobs sticking out! Maybe I'll just quite looking in the mirror for a week or so. Yeah, like that will happen! You know, the othe