Feeling like I made a mistake

[Nan]

Sweetie it will pass. You are going through the "boobie blues." I'm 8 weeks PO now and my girls are starting to feel like part of me now. They are looking alot better, although righty is a little slower than lefty, and some of the time I don't think about them. Recovery is a slow process from this surgery and I don't think very many of us were prepared for that fact. Even though we read and read and read and we thought we knew how it was going to be. Take heart, and get a sitter for a day anyway, just for a break.

[gaviota]

Originally Posted by Peachesp313

I think I have the blues. I can't stop crying.
I can't sleep well, my boobs are hard and tight and so uncomfortable, the sports bra hurts, the underwire digs into the ports on the side, I'm always sick to my tummy, I can hardly eat, I can't pick my baby up, there's so much tape everywhere, I HATE THIS!
Plus, I have had to take care of the kids alone during the days since Monday. I thought I'd be cool, but it is really hard. (no wonder my cousin had her mom take her kids during the day for the first week)
I wish I could just take them out and forget this ever happened.
I want to be normal me again.

Sorry to be such a downer, but I am am so sad right now, and I did this to myself.
Thanks for reading.

Calm down, you're only 5 days post-op. At day 5 I felt so much pain that I completely regretted ever getting my BA. We've all been through this, just look at what I posted on my 13th day post-op:

http://www.justbreastimplants.com/fo...hlight=gaviota (I'm back with big boobs!!!)

Be patient, I assure you that you'll feel a little better everyday. Today I'm one month post-op, and I don't regret getting my BA anymore, I just regret not going larger!!! I should have gone with more than 400cc instead of the 365cc I got.

[L.A.nxious]

Awww Denise. I haven't been through it yet but I'm sorry you feel so awful. All the ladies say it just takes time and you have the rest of your life to enjoy your boobs. A few days of misery sucks (probably BIG time) but in the long run I'm sure you'll be happy with your decision to have the BA. Try to remember that Time heals everything, even sore boobies. Keep us posted on how you're feeling. We are all here for you when you need a fake boobie to cry on.

[mama2twingirls]

Denise,

Like all the other ladies, I think it is normal to go through the boobie blues.

I know how it is not to be able to pick your children up and love on them. My girls are 3. But ya know what, our kiddos are so durable and resilient. Time is a non issue at this age, and I don't think they will remember it, although we will forever.

Hang in there till hubby gets home. Then take some Mama time.
I hope all of these feelings of regret go away soon for you.
Big hugs.

[Amerie]

Sorry you're feeling down Peaches The sickness will get better very soon, and the bra problem is solveable if you can get hubby to get you some nice soft ones I'm sure he wont mind if you lean on him for a bit.

I've been having weird mood swings since the ba too, really high and happy one minute and down and crying the next. Today is a bad day, bf and I tried to get intimate tonight and I just couldnt get in the mood, was too worried about hurting the boobs, or moving in a certain way and pulling my chest muscles. Then I felt bad in case he was insulted in any way, cue lots of crying and insecurity!

Hope this goes away soon for us all, it sucks

[milla]

peaches, please give us a nice sunny smile. go on

i know all about boobie blues. sometimes i think they're as bad as post baby blues with one difference. babies are kinda "natural", boobies are something we brought upon ourselves, so we're harder on ourselves for doing this to our body.

you'll soon be feeling better, i promise you. its a rollercoaster but at the end its all worth it

[katiew]

Hiya peaches

Sorry you're feeling horrid - big hugs to you ((((((((()))))))))).

I've been a bit up and down over the last few days - spent all day sunday crying (around 7 days post op so similar time to you). I think that it must be some kind of hormonal reaction to the interference with our breasts. I had my kids from 3 days post-op but only when they had finished school - it must be hard when they are at home all day. They way I figured - they might be watching a bit more TV and eating a bit more junk but really a couple of weeks of that isn't going to do any real harm.

I found that really trying to really chill out and then getting to bed early made a difference. Not much use I suppose if you can't sleep too well.

Also if you are feeling sick, my number one hangover cure might work (it helped me a few days after the BA when I wanted to puke ). It might sound strange but ice-cream really settles my stomach. Maybe something to do with the milk and chill factor.

I suppose if you fancied it you could give that a try.

Hope you feel better soon

Katie x

[JACQELINERT]

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I think I was about as far post-op as you when I had a dream, from which I woke up screaming, "GET THESE BOOBS OFFA ME!!" LOL!

I remember days when just being a mommy at home with small children was enough to make me feel "GET THESE KIDS OFFA ME!!"

So having them combined must be a double whammy.

The feeling does pass, loved one. Hang in there, and try not to believe your depressed thoughts and feelings. If you just hang tight, happiness will emerge on its own, as your strength returns, without your having to do anything.

[val(gomoms)]

Hold on sweetie, it shall pass! i know it's overwhelming.

the surgery, pain killer, pain, lack of sleep, tightness, nervousness,... it can be very hard on your emotion. like i said, it's a lot to handle right now. you'll see, when the pain will slowly go away and your sleep will come back, you'll get better.

i'll be thinking of you, very hard!

[elisa]

It will be ok and it gets so much better. Just try to rest when you can and drink a lot of water. You are in my thoughts. I am 7 days out my self with three kids. DH can't take off work I do have some help from M-I-L. But I do feel you I still try to do as much as I can so M-I-L doesn't act like I am milking it. Not her fault I don't think she realizes it. Hang in there it gets better.
Elisa

[CATCOOPER]

Hi sweetie ! Like everyone else is saying it will pass. I cried if I'm not wrong it was 8th day it really got to me I was trying to drive and I had gone out to pick up some medication and I just couldnt' do it . I started to cry to my husband on the phone while he was at work. I know he didn't know what to do. He tried so hard to cheer me up. I just wanted to say things will get better and pretty soon you will be able to do more things on your own. I promise you.

[happy2b50]

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. It will get better, and you will be so happy that you had your ba. It does take a few weeks, at least it did for me. Hang in there hon. Sending you hugs.

[Peachesp313]

I am not feeling 100% of course, but I am feeling a lot better today!! You all helped so much yesterday, just by reminding me that it will pass.
Yesterday evening I ended up in a lot of pain, was really sick to my stomach and throwing up...just a bad night in general. I woke up this morning feeling worse than yesterday.
But I had a post-op appt. today, and it was nice weather out. Hubby and I drove the two hours there and talked the whole way about how stressed he is having to pick up all my slack, and how bad I feel and how much I love him...by the time we got to my PS office I felt better. We had both gotten a lot of our chest...this has been an ordeal for all of us.
By the time we got home I was starving, so hubby went and got me a burger and I scarfed it down. I also stopped taking all of my meds yesterday, except tylenol, and that has helped.
Now if I can just get some sleep tonight I'll feel really good.
So, yeah, it's an up and down thing, not just for me either. Being able to read all of your replies helped so much yesterday when I felt very alone and sad, and stupid. And having the drive in the sun alone with hubby today was great. (first time I've been out of the house in a week)

A HUGE than you to all of you...I love being able to turn to you all for support when hubby isn't here...the days go by faster and I know I am not alone. I hope I am able to be as supportive to all of you in your times of need!! Bless you all!