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Peachesp313 · 03-07-2007, 09:06 AM

I think I have the blues. I can't stop crying.
I can't sleep well, my boobs are hard and tight and so uncomfortable, the sports bra hurts, the underwire digs into the ports on the side, I'm always sick to my tummy, I can hardly eat, I can't pick my baby up, there's so much tape everywhere, I HATE THIS!
Plus, I have had to take care of the kids alone during the days since Monday. I thought I'd be cool, but it is really hard. (no wonder my cousin had her mom take her kids during the day for the first week)
I wish I could just take them out and forget this ever happened.
I want to be normal me again.

Sorry to be such a downer, but I am am so sad right now, and I did this to myself.
Thanks for reading.

Ivy · 03-07-2007, 09:14 AM

Denise,

I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. I know it's easy for me to tell you to give it time and what you are feeling is pretty normal. I had some of the same feelings early post-op myself. I couldn't believe that I had spent so much money and I was so uncomfortable, couldn't sleep, and still had ugly boobs! I do think you have post-op blues. I promise you will feel better, it just takes time.

Imsoexcited · 03-07-2007, 09:28 AM

Denise:

I feel for what you are experiencing. I think perhaps many of us had moments where we felt a little down trodden as well, however, having young children to tend to, doesn't allow you to take the time for yourself.

Is there any way you can arrange for a sitter to give you some time to get out and have some fresh air.....a walk in a mall..... pedicure.....lunch with a friend....something just for you.

I know that this is hard to imagine now, but, you are young, hence, your healing progression will happen daily. Have you tried ice packs? You mention that your sports bra wire is irritating you......there are many sports bras available that don't have underwire.

As far as the eating goes.......not getting your proper nutrition is no doubt impeding your recovery........even gatorade would at least keep your electrolytes up which would give you some energy.

Thinking of you, and hoping today is a better day.

J&J · 03-07-2007, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Peachesp313

I think I have the blues. I can't stop crying.
I can't sleep well, my boobs are hard and tight and so uncomfortable, the sports bra hurts, the underwire digs into the ports on the side, I'm always sick to my tummy, I can hardly eat, I can't pick my baby up, there's so much tape everywhere, I HATE THIS!
Plus, I have had to take care of the kids alone during the days since Monday. I thought I'd be cool, but it is really hard. (no wonder my cousin had her mom take her kids during the day for the first week)
I wish I could just take them out and forget this ever happened.
I want to be normal me again.

Sorry to be such a downer, but I am am so sad right now, and I did this to myself.
Thanks for reading.

I know how you feel.I felt that too.Being so uncomfortable & have to worry for complication

Sometimes I want to pull them out

But they are in you now.all you have to do is to accept them and take good care of them.I'm sure as days pass by you'll feel better.I'm feeling better now but still worrying .Sometimes I blame myself

But it's over.I have to live with it and ENJOY..

About sport bras------> NIKEWOMEN <--- very comfortable.just choose your exact size.They are comfortable even for sleeping & anywhere.

About your kids try to get Nanny for while

Be positive

Take care yourself!

Peachesp313 · 03-07-2007, 09:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Imsoexcited

Denise:

I feel for what you are experiencing. I think perhaps many of us had moments where we felt a little down trodden as well, however, having young children to tend to, doesn't allow you to take the time for yourself.

Is there any way you can arrange for a sitter to give you some time to get out and have some fresh air.....a walk in a mall..... pedicure.....lunch with a friend....something just for you.

I know that this is hard to imagine now, but, you are young, hence, your healing progression will happen daily. Have you tried ice packs? You mention that your sports bra wire is irritating you......there are many sports bras available that don't have underwire.

As far as the eating goes.......not getting your proper nutrition is no doubt impeding your recovery........even gatorade would at least keep your electrolytes up which would give you some energy.

Thinking of you, and hoping today is a better day.

Thank you very much, I do appreciate it. Unfortunately the sports bra is the one my PS wants me to wear 24/7 for 2 weeks at least. (I'm sitting here with it off, I JUST HAD TO!!) I have tried ice (pea) packs, that helps a lot, but I can only use them in the evening when hubby is here to wrangle the kids.
I'm certain that having to take care of the kids is draining me. But we have no other option.
I'll try Gatorade...thanks for that suggestion!!
I hope it gets better soon, and your well wishes are very much appreciated, indeed!

jayne · 03-07-2007, 09:48 AM

Hey hun sorry you are having such a down day...Day 5 was the worst for me,and I didnt have little kids about I had my hubby doing everything for me and I was eating really well yet I still was depressed! I think its because you have been ill for a while but the end is too far away to see...by the end of the first week I was telling all my friends dont do it ...ever.... it is too much, and now I tell everybody it was soo worth it. You'll be suprised the difference a couple of days will make...hang in there it will get better I promise

Peachesp313 · 03-07-2007, 09:55 AM

Oh Jayne, i hope you're right. Thanks so much!! (I think today is day 5 for me)

Bethmomof6 · 03-07-2007, 10:47 AM

I am sorry you are so sad. I hope today you start feeling better. (((BIG HUGS)))

Vanessa · 03-07-2007, 11:03 AM

I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! I felt the same way you do now. I was completley worthless for the first 5 days. My SIL took my kids (3 of them age 5 and under!)....because i couldn't do anything but sleep and lay around. I was still taking pain meds and just sooo uncomfortable. I had to wear the strap for 6 weeks, and couldn't sleep, didnt' want to eat. My boobs were soooo high and hard, i couldn't see how they could possibly get better, but they did. It DOES get better, I PROMISE!!!! hang in there a little while longer....I reallys started feeling better on days 6 & 7 and it just improved every day. I would recommend having someone look after you kids at least for a little while until you feel stronger. There was no way i could have taken care of mine those first 5 days. I had a 8 month old at the time, and i couldnt' pick him up!
Stay strong girl....you'll get through it!!

karaoke · 03-07-2007, 11:05 AM

Denise, when I had my BA all I had to do was think about myself---I couldn't imagine having little ones around! Just know that there is a light (coming soon!) at the end of the tunnel and you will feel better and your breasts will be gorgeous! The first week is always a bummer---by next week this time things should brighten up a bit!!! Hang in there!

leolais · 03-07-2007, 11:06 AM

oh honey
i know what your feeling... im day 3 into my BA and i look down and see these big ole swollen hard blobs and it makes me want to cry. the only thing that gets me going is surrounding myself with an awesome support system, reading this forum, and watching "girls next door" of E tv hehe. trust that it will get amazingly better...thats what im clinging on to.

Carlyzmom · 03-07-2007, 11:06 AM

Denise,
I can so relate to you. Although it is miserable, I think it is pretty common to be depressed. Boobs are a very "female" part of our anatomy and I believe that messing with them stirs up hormones and it affects us just like post partum depression or PMS would. I have been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. When you are down, it is hard to see the big picture, but if we listen to the wonderful advice of these ladies, I know it will get better. I sailed through my first week (with help from family), but for the last week, I have had severe pain in my nipples. They throb and burn like when I was nursing (or attempting) my kids. I am so ready for it to go away, but I know it will take time. Many days, I regret doing it, but I know with time. it will ease.
So hang in there, sister. Let us know how you are doing. PM me if you need to.
Jill

yellowroses911 · 03-07-2007, 11:09 AM

Denise,

Bless ur heat sweetie, hang in there. Today is day 3 for me and I just got finished having a crying spell so I know a lil about how u are feeling. I have been feeling good until this morning I woke up and felt like my boobs were goint to explode I mean they were so tight i thought I'd pop out I know that sounds funny now but it really hurt. I ate some cereal and took 2 percocet and antibotic and am feeling a lil better now. I think I may have over did it yesterday as u have because ur kids are little. Mine ar 18, 17, 15 & 13 and 3 of them were home sick from school yesterday so I was taking care of them instead of them taking care of me. Always seems to work that way but it's the motherly instinct in us. Try and take it as easy as u can and trust me it will be worth it in the end. You have been so positive and helpful to others over the weeks. Soft Hugs .... Darlene .....

Victoria · 03-07-2007, 11:19 AM

I'm so sorry....Ah the mama guilt. Yes. Don't let the negative grab too tight a hold. You are a good Mommy and will be back to loving play with those little ones like crazy soon! Lots of movies, outside play (to wear them out), and let them try to help care for themselves. Let them make their own PBJ or wear pj's all day--slumber party! I think the quote I appreciated the best in your opening was "I did this to myself" was what haunted me too! I felt responsible for my own inability to be the responsible "perfect" mom, wife, me. You have a better you in mind, it's just going to take us all in recovery a while to get there! We'll make it together!

My advice is to let it out, cry it out, and as long as the kids don't kill each other, it's a good day. Kids are so much more resilient than we think! They won't even remember down the road.

We're here for you and those of us with children have felt the same mama guilt somewhere along the way.

sarah191 · 03-07-2007, 11:22 AM

I have 5 kids under 8!!! My DH left out of town from day 3 till day 9, so I feel for you. Right now your body is useing all it's energy to heal you and it really leaves you feeling exasted (sp?). Give it time, it does get better! Try heat, that made a world of difference for me. Don't try to clean the house ( it'll still be there when your feeling better

) I know it's hard right now, and I'm so sorry your having a hard time. I'm sendig ((( good vibes))) your way!

03-07-2007, 09:06 AM	#1
Peachesp313 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 895 Thanks: 274 Thanked 288 Times in 254 Posts	Feeling like I made a mistake I think I have the blues. I can't stop crying. I can't sleep well, my boobs are hard and tight and so uncomfortable, the sports bra hurts, the underwire digs into the ports on the side, I'm always sick to my tummy, I can hardly eat, I can't pick my baby up, there's so much tape everywhere, I HATE THIS! Plus, I have had to take care of the kids alone during the days since Monday. I thought I'd be cool, but it is really hard. (no wonder my cousin had her mom take her kids during the day for the first week) I wish I could just take them out and forget this ever happened. I want to be normal me again. Sorry to be such a downer, but I am am so sad right now, and I did this to myself. Thanks for reading.

03-07-2007, 09:14 AM	#2
Ivy President of the Universe Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Earth Posts: 2,718 My Mood: Thanks: 1,317 Thanked 1,087 Times in 751 Posts	Denise, I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time. I know it's easy for me to tell you to give it time and what you are feeling is pretty normal. I had some of the same feelings early post-op myself. I couldn't believe that I had spent so much money and I was so uncomfortable, couldn't sleep, and still had ugly boobs! I do think you have post-op blues. I promise you will feel better, it just takes time. __________________

03-07-2007, 11:03 AM	#9
Vanessa I've been a good girl Santa ;) Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: The South Posts: 2,279 My Mood: Thanks: 1,044 Thanked 741 Times in 609 Posts	I know EXACTLY how you feel!!! I felt the same way you do now. I was completley worthless for the first 5 days. My SIL took my kids (3 of them age 5 and under!)....because i couldn't do anything but sleep and lay around. I was still taking pain meds and just sooo uncomfortable. I had to wear the strap for 6 weeks, and couldn't sleep, didnt' want to eat. My boobs were soooo high and hard, i couldn't see how they could possibly get better, but they did. It DOES get better, I PROMISE!!!! hang in there a little while longer....I reallys started feeling better on days 6 & 7 and it just improved every day. I would recommend having someone look after you kids at least for a little while until you feel stronger. There was no way i could have taken care of mine those first 5 days. I had a 8 month old at the time, and i couldnt' pick him up! Stay strong girl....you'll get through it!! __________________ www.justbreastimplants.com/Beckenstein/

03-07-2007, 11:06 AM	#11
leolais new bathing suit!!! Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 156 Thanks: 108 Thanked 50 Times in 48 Posts	i know excatly how you feel oh honey i know what your feeling... im day 3 into my BA and i look down and see these big ole swollen hard blobs and it makes me want to cry. the only thing that gets me going is surrounding myself with an awesome support system, reading this forum, and watching "girls next door" of E tv hehe. trust that it will get amazingly better...thats what im clinging on to.

03-07-2007, 11:19 AM	#14
Victoria Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Northern California Posts: 784 Thanks: 207 Thanked 345 Times in 287 Posts	mama guilt I'm so sorry....Ah the mama guilt. Yes. Don't let the negative grab too tight a hold. You are a good Mommy and will be back to loving play with those little ones like crazy soon! Lots of movies, outside play (to wear them out), and let them try to help care for themselves. Let them make their own PBJ or wear pj's all day--slumber party! I think the quote I appreciated the best in your opening was "I did this to myself" was what haunted me too! I felt responsible for my own inability to be the responsible "perfect" mom, wife, me. You have a better you in mind, it's just going to take us all in recovery a while to get there! We'll make it together! My advice is to let it out, cry it out, and as long as the kids don't kill each other, it's a good day. Kids are so much more resilient than we think! They won't even remember down the road. We're here for you and those of us with children have felt the same mama guilt somewhere along the way.

03-07-2007, 09:28 AM	#3
Imsoexcited Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Peterborough Posts: 22 Thanks: 9 Thanked 6 Times in 5 Posts	Denise: I feel for what you are experiencing. I think perhaps many of us had moments where we felt a little down trodden as well, however, having young children to tend to, doesn't allow you to take the time for yourself. Is there any way you can arrange for a sitter to give you some time to get out and have some fresh air.....a walk in a mall..... pedicure.....lunch with a friend....something just for you. I know that this is hard to imagine now, but, you are young, hence, your healing progression will happen daily. Have you tried ice packs? You mention that your sports bra wire is irritating you......there are many sports bras available that don't have underwire. As far as the eating goes.......not getting your proper nutrition is no doubt impeding your recovery........even gatorade would at least keep your electrolytes up which would give you some energy. Thinking of you, and hoping today is a better day.

03-07-2007, 09:48 AM	#6
jayne Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Northants Posts: 1,448 Thanks: 50 Thanked 565 Times in 513 Posts	Hey hun sorry you are having such a down day...Day 5 was the worst for me,and I didnt have little kids about I had my hubby doing everything for me and I was eating really well yet I still was depressed! I think its because you have been ill for a while but the end is too far away to see...by the end of the first week I was telling all my friends dont do it ...ever.... it is too much, and now I tell everybody it was soo worth it. You'll be suprised the difference a couple of days will make...hang in there it will get better I promise

03-07-2007, 09:55 AM	#7
Peachesp313 Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Arkansas Posts: 895 Thanks: 274 Thanked 288 Times in 254 Posts	Oh Jayne, i hope you're right. Thanks so much!! (I think today is day 5 for me)

03-07-2007, 10:47 AM	#8
Bethmomof6 Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Kansas Posts: 1,982 Thanks: 558 Thanked 849 Times in 765 Posts	I am sorry you are so sad. I hope today you start feeling better. (((BIG HUGS)))

03-07-2007, 11:05 AM	#10
karaoke Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,431 Thanks: 154 Thanked 318 Times in 272 Posts	Denise, when I had my BA all I had to do was think about myself---I couldn't imagine having little ones around! Just know that there is a light (coming soon!) at the end of the tunnel and you will feel better and your breasts will be gorgeous! The first week is always a bummer---by next week this time things should brighten up a bit!!! Hang in there!

03-07-2007, 11:06 AM	#12
Carlyzmom BOOBS! Just dreamy!! Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 152 Thanks: 109 Thanked 50 Times in 45 Posts	Denise, I can so relate to you. Although it is miserable, I think it is pretty common to be depressed. Boobs are a very "female" part of our anatomy and I believe that messing with them stirs up hormones and it affects us just like post partum depression or PMS would. I have been on a rollercoaster ride of emotions. When you are down, it is hard to see the big picture, but if we listen to the wonderful advice of these ladies, I know it will get better. I sailed through my first week (with help from family), but for the last week, I have had severe pain in my nipples. They throb and burn like when I was nursing (or attempting) my kids. I am so ready for it to go away, but I know it will take time. Many days, I regret doing it, but I know with time. it will ease. So hang in there, sister. Let us know how you are doing. PM me if you need to. Jill

03-07-2007, 11:09 AM	#13
yellowroses911 Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Linthicum, Maryland Posts: 115 Thanks: 135 Thanked 38 Times in 35 Posts	Denise, Bless ur heat sweetie, hang in there. Today is day 3 for me and I just got finished having a crying spell so I know a lil about how u are feeling. I have been feeling good until this morning I woke up and felt like my boobs were goint to explode I mean they were so tight i thought I'd pop out I know that sounds funny now but it really hurt. I ate some cereal and took 2 percocet and antibotic and am feeling a lil better now. I think I may have over did it yesterday as u have because ur kids are little. Mine ar 18, 17, 15 & 13 and 3 of them were home sick from school yesterday so I was taking care of them instead of them taking care of me. Always seems to work that way but it's the motherly instinct in us. Try and take it as easy as u can and trust me it will be worth it in the end. You have been so positive and helpful to others over the weeks. Soft Hugs .... Darlene .....

03-07-2007, 11:22 AM	#15
sarah191 Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Idaho Posts: 629 Thanks: 307 Thanked 219 Times in 190 Posts	I have 5 kids under 8!!! My DH left out of town from day 3 till day 9, so I feel for you. Right now your body is useing all it's energy to heal you and it really leaves you feeling exasted (sp?). Give it time, it does get better! Try heat, that made a world of difference for me. Don't try to clean the house ( it'll still be there when your feeling better ) I know it's hard right now, and I'm so sorry your having a hard time. I'm sendig ((( good vibes))) your way!