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spectrefen 02-22-2015 10:43 AM

Why are general reactions about BA so negative?
 
Before finding this forum, I asked almost EVERYWHERE about information about a BA, post-operatory problems, advice, etc. And most of the reactions, the feedback, I received, was painfully negative. I will post and translate some of the things I had to read.

"You should increase your self-esteem"

"I am a healthcare student and I think a BA surgery is unnecessary"

"You don't love your body enough if you do that"

"I have your same bra size and I don't have that complex"

"Big boobs are a hateful trend, small boobs are better"

"Boys will look at you as an object, not a woman with a beautiful personality"

Very few people actually encouraged or helped me, and that was disgusting. Why do you thing general reactions about BA are so nasty?

BALadi 06-17-2015 06:44 PM

Many reasons. Some may think:

1) It's degrading to our gender because we fall into a belief that small breasts are undesirable

2) We want porn-sized breasts to please a man; to please a job

3) We are so insecure that having fake breasts will not change anything. We will still feel insecure with ourselves

4) Social media portrays women to be sex objects.. often supporting plastic surgery

5) It's superficial. We've been conditioned to believe big is best

6) Surgery has risks. One can die and leave loved ones behind

7) Greed

8) Expensive

Some may not have thought about:

1) Asymmetry issues
2) Breast cancer effects
3) Breast-feeding effects
4) A woman wanting something for herself; her own personal desire
5) A woman wanting small implants; natural looking implants

JenRN 07-14-2015 03:00 PM


Originally Posted by BALadi (Post 2808780)
Some may not have thought about:

1) Asymmetry issues
2) Breast cancer effects
3) Breast-feeding effects
4) A woman wanting something for herself; her own personal desire
5) A woman wanting small implants; natural looking implants

:bravo: Amen, sista'! For me personally, it has been about doing it for myself and myself only and wanting natural looking breasts, with an implant on the small side of the scale. To each their own and to thine own self be true!

Fluffybun 07-14-2015 03:07 PM

From other girls, usually just envy

From guys a mixture of wanting to be in control and a fear of change

snowlover25 07-14-2015 03:18 PM

I think often maybe a person is secretly jealous/envious and they don't realize it. Either they have their own issues with their body, or possibly if they're in a relationship, it makes them feel less attractive to their SO, or like their SO would think that person looks better. Which basically ties back to low self esteem/body issues.

Bongodrums 07-14-2015 06:12 PM


Originally Posted by BALadi (Post 2808780)
Many reasons. Some may think:

1) It's degrading to our gender because we fall into a belief that small breasts are undesirable

2) We want porn-sized breasts to please a man; to please a job

3) We are so insecure that having fake breasts will not change anything. We will still feel insecure with ourselves

4) Social media portrays women to be sex objects.. often supporting plastic surgery

5) It's superficial. We've been conditioned to believe big is best

6) Surgery has risks. One can die and leave loved ones behind

7) Greed

8) Expensive

Some may not have thought about:

1) Asymmetry issues
2) Breast cancer effects
3) Breast-feeding effects
4) A woman wanting something for herself; her own personal desire
5) A woman wanting small implants; natural looking implants

Holy friggin logic!!!!! I wish I could like this comment ten times :snap:

Valkyri 12-26-2016 05:04 PM

It's interesting: I've told all my close friends about my upcoming surgery and the women are all supportive! They say, "If you want this, do it." The men had mixed reactions. Most of my straight male friends are ex boyfriends and love my natural small Cs and have expressed disappointment that I am getting implants. One or two who like bigger boobs are excited. My gay male friends were mostly horrified and expressed the opinion, "You don't need fake boobs. Why would you do that?" Ultimately my friends have all come round to be very supportive, regardless of their initial reaction, but I found it interesting. A lot of the negative reaction was, "You don't NEED them." And I was like, no I don't. They aren't a necessity of life. But I WANT them and I always have, and now I can finally afford them, so I'm doing it! I think people are opposed to this procedure either out of envy, fear of the operation itself, or the belief that women only do this because they feel bad about their bodies or have low self esteem. I haven't told my family because my mother is of that 1970s school of feminism that believed that makeup is a tool of the patriarchy, so I can only imagine how horrified she would be if she knew I was planning this! (I wasn't allowed to have Barbies as a kid because she felt they promoted an unrealistic female ideal. Boy, did that backfire!!!) I know she'll figure it out eventually, but for now, it'll remain a secret because I only want implant positivity around me right now! My surgery is in 7 weeks.

glucose 11-23-2017 08:47 PM

*necrothread*

People say it’s attention seeking if you aren’t getting them done because of breast cancer or anything terrible. I’ve also had people get mad that I’m “throwing” money away and that I could use it for a down payment on a house or a new car etc (aka things that fall along the societal timeline).

Screw em.

april.12 04-18-2018 07:39 PM

I think people have such a problem with it because they immediately assume you are doing it for MEN. Honestly they could not be more wrong, I've never heard of a woman having plastic surgery for men. I can't believe people, other women, assume that we would spend thousands of dollars and go through weeks of pain for MEN. Seriously??

Once I explain to them that men have never complained about my boobs and they are for ME and I have wanted them forEVER, they usually get more supportive. After that my family mostly had an issue because they didn't agree that I should spend the money. They wanted me to save it.

Mariketa 04-19-2018 07:42 AM

I believe it’s a $$ thing. Whenever you run into something that isn’t free/cheap, you get a lot of opinions about whether or not it’s necessary. If it’s something everyone can afford, no one cares, but if you’ve saved for something that others might not save for, chances are, they’re going to call it frivolous, vain, adding to the culture of objectifying women, etc. If there’s one thing most people can agree on, it’s the ease and ability with which they are able to dislike those who seem to have more money to spend. IMHO it all comes down to that.

Blina 04-19-2018 01:09 PM

I think people may assume that you are going straight for porn star boobs, not necessarily just improving their appearance (or whatever other reasonable reason women want to do this). I also just never thought I would get one done because I thought they would all be obvious...my mother in law has them and they are very noticeable and obviously fake. She is very skinny so they look like bolt-ons & even though they are not that large people always give her the side-eye. I knew I never wanted that kind of attention but didn’t realize that a skilled surgeon could make them look perfectly natural! So...I think until people do thorough research like we all did, they will not understand the ins and outs and will always have some kind of preconceived idea about how it works, what they look like, and whether a woman should/not get one.

Chickenandboots 04-19-2018 03:28 PM

I have only two friends that have been supportive the rest have given me ****. Like why do you want them I never heard you complain about them before? Uh... Your perfect how you are...

Uh how about I want them? And yeah it's my money... Not yours I frankly don't care about your opinion

Gummies4Me 04-19-2018 07:52 PM

Most everyone I know that I told was supportive because they know I've wanted it for a long time, they knew I was going for a natural look, to even out my body and fix my deformity. But there's always that one person lol. One person in my life was not supportive, completely against it. Thought I was crazy for spending about $12K on them (I had a lift and extras added on to my BA). But this person has NO issue buying designer purses, shoes, etc. So I asked her, how much in the last 10 years have you spent on purses and shoes? Cause she has a TON lol. In purses alone she spent more than $12K in the last 10 years. I said okay, so I don't buy a ton of designer purses or shoes, to me that's wasting money, but have you ever heard me talk wrongly to you about you enjoying them? No... so if I wanted this for 10 years and spending my money how I want to, just how you spend yours how you want... then let me do that. She then "got it". LOL sometimes people don't make the connection. Some people like fancy purses, shoes, cars, have expensive habits, etc, she also likes going to expensive $50/plate type restaurants once a week. And to me, it's hers/her husband's money so they can enjoy however they'd like. Me, I enjoy having great looking boobs that make me look great and having fun experiences. Everyone has their "thing" that they spend a lot of money on, that to other people is completely unnecessary.

Music 04-12-2020 04:41 PM

I think a lot of the men who say they hate implants only say it because they don't like the very obviously fake look and think all implants look like that. They'll say implants are yucky and then drool over women who are totally enhanced.


Ms.sophi 07-08-2020 10:31 AM

I think people have a lot of biases. Personally when I told my best friend she just kinda said... “wow ok. But it’s sucks that you’ll lose all the sensation in your boobs”. (Because her mom got implants like 30 years ago resulting in nerve damage). Also I’ve always been small 28 rib cage. (30A boobs) while she’s been curvy with DDs. So her perception is like bigger boobs on me wouldn’t look proportional. Once she realized I was serious she became supportive though. My other best friend said something like “you’ll have to get them replaced because they wear out after a while” 😮 but everyone in my life is being supportive now. Even my mom cried when I first told her. She was like “whhhyyyy caannnttt you just looovvveee yourseeelllfff???” 😂👍 but now she says “oh that dress we’ll be perfect for your future tits” and I’m like “shut up mom, that’s weird” 😂


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